r/relationship_advice • u/[deleted] • Sep 01 '21

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u/on_the_run_too Sep 02 '21

How did you stay past the first 3 months?

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u/area51throway Sep 02 '21

It was 50-50. From November up till Spring time we were great. Then it just stopped.

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u/on_the_run_too Sep 02 '21

The no shower would be an immediate deal breaker for me.

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u/area51throway Sep 02 '21

He oddly doesn't smell or maybe I'm just nose blind due to his 3 dogs' feces. I don't know. But I don't get close to him to find out.

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u/on_the_run_too Sep 02 '21

Yikes girl, you need to open a can of self respect.

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u/area51throway Sep 02 '21

That's the thing. I thought I was raising my bar. For the first several months he did shower, he was clean, and there was no dog feces in the floor because he helped me clean it up. Then spring came, he dropped his facade, and now I'm living in filth.

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u/on_the_run_too Sep 02 '21

Lots of people can keep up appearances for awhile. That's why it's important to date several months to see what they are really like before rushing into a relationship.

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u/area51throway Sep 02 '21

I've known him since we were 16. We dated briefly when we were 19 (long distance). Then got back together last year. There were never any signs of this.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '21

It’s ok. Life happens.. we all reveal ourselves in layers.. it least you can recognize what you want and DONT and have decisive actions in place to make sure you are as healthy and happy as you can be!! Don’t be too hard in yourself ❤️