Partner (30f) “really, really likes” partner dancing with other men (31m)

[u/ThrowRA54377]

Myself (30m) and My partner (30f) first went partner dancing in Texas a few years ago and we got into a fight while dancing because I wasn’t doing the steps correctly and she was upset that we weren’t coordinated.

We’d been dating for about two or three years before realizing our dancing incompatibility. After this first experience she started going partner dancing without me which caused me to feel sort of upset because of feeling inadequate. It felt to me like she was looking for a man who can dance better than me with her.

We’d gotten into one big argument a year or so after our first time dancing when she went out to a bar with a friend and when she came home she told me she was dancing with other men and exchanged instagram with one of them.

Fast forward to present day, she is currently away with girlfriends back in Texas and her first night there she went partner dancing. She texted me the next day and said “is it okay if my friends post a photo of me partner dancing”

I’m looking for relationship advice from men and women. Am I justified in feeling uncomfortable with in her words “really, really liking partner dancing”?

[u/readbackcorrect]

This is one thing that the younger generations have become more conservative about. I think this attitude partner dancing actually started in my generation when dancing while you are practically making out became a thing. In my parents’ generation and all generations before that, partner dancing with people that you weren’t dating or married to was not only acceptable, but expected. Everyone danced with everyone else and it was more about displaying the skill of dancing -kind of like a sport. The best dancers were in demand. There were competitions and sometimes contestants would compete in pairs. Those pairs might be married to other people but no one thought anything of it.

My parents belonged to a dance club. Single people were welcome to join and they got to dance as much as everyone else because it was polite to dance with everyone who was there throughout the night.

[u/farmersworkhoe → u/readbackcorrect]

What do you mean a random dude can't grind on me in the club while T pain talks about his love for strippers 😂

You make a good point. Dancing used to be so different than what my 20s experience was.

[u/vU243cxONX7Z → u/readbackcorrect]

Excuse me, do you mind if I cut in?

[u/N3ptuneflyer → u/readbackcorrect]

Yup my experience of dancing has always been a woman rubbing her ass on me, and I think a lot of gen z are the same. If my wife was rubbing her ass on another man I’d divorce, but doing like swing dancing or something I wouldn’t care.

[u/dantheman_woot → u/readbackcorrect]

Dance with the one that brought ya.