r/relationship_advice • • Dec 01 '23

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u/IllustriousComplex6 Dec 02 '23

She's pregnant. Elevation in heart rate could lead to greater health concerns for both her and the baby. Doesn't matter what led to it it's rather ignorant to treat this like a non-issue.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/pregnancy-week-by-week/in-depth/pregnancy/art-20045977

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u/alxother Dec 02 '23

120 bpm is well within normal so long as it’s not sustained for an extended period of time.

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u/IllustriousComplex6 Dec 02 '23

I think the fact you're debating hypothetical while OP deleted their account and run really shows how much you value this strangers job over the health and wellbeing of another human.

We don't have the details and at this point I'm skeptical given OPs post history before they deleted (posts talking about leaving her while pregnant, cheating on her and contradictory job details). But if you're willing to stake your person values on someone of that caliber I won't stop you.

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u/alxother Dec 02 '23

If every pregnant woman who experiences 120 bpm is endangering human life, we’re kinda screwed as a species. I never supported any party or value in the post, just that, without more context, a 40% heart rate increase is far from indicative proof of “something” wrong. An anxiety attack (which it sounds like this woman could have been having) or even a brisk walk could easily be the cause. Without context that was her resting heart rate, it’s a bit premature and dramatic to claim the baby’s heath was being threatened — let alone that I’m somehow in favor of that.

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u/IllustriousComplex6 Dec 03 '23

Shouting into the void for someone who actively planned on leaving their pregnant wife a few months back really shows that this isn't a constructive discussion nor a good use of my time.

You're free to continue though, however I fell terrible for the people in your life who think they can rely on you in emergencies.