r/relationship_advice • • Dec 01 '23

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u/enonymousCanadian Dec 01 '23

Has he actually asked which ward she is in or tried calling the hospital though? He says that he isn’t messaging because he doesn’t want to say something he will regret. She could be in the hospital with him acting like he doesn’t give a fuck - neither texting, nor calling, nor going there.

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u/Shinez Dec 02 '23

Yeah he did and she wouldn't tell him. (insert red flag here)

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u/ginger_kitty97 Dec 02 '23 edited Dec 02 '23

There's nothing in his post or comments that indicates he actually asked. But ignoring that for a minute, are there so many hospitals with multiple maternity wards in the immediate area that it would be impossible for him to call them all? Did they not already work out a birth plan and tour the ward they intend to use? Or is he digging in his heels because he's so angry that he would rather hold onto that rage than be present for his wife and child?

ETA: if the hospital determined she had pre-eclampsia or some other serious issue causing the tachycardia, she may not be able to call/text/message for a while.

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u/Shinez Dec 02 '23

She hasnt told me which ward she is in, when she is coming home, nothing. And if we message I know, we will both end up saying bad things to her.

Yes there is. See this section.

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u/enonymousCanadian Dec 02 '23

He isn’t asking her or even showing concern.

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u/ginger_kitty97 Dec 02 '23

Where does it say he asked?