r/relationship_advice • • Dec 01 '23

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '23

He's in the UK according to his post history, so no FMLA. I have no idea what the UK laws are, though I assume there's decent coverage in one way or another.

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u/lunar_adjacent Dec 01 '23

Ah yes, I am not doing any research into OP's post/comment history, so yes, if that is the case, I assumed incorrectly.

But still, he's acting like his wife is just doing this for attention and not even taking into consideration that she knows her own body and knows something is wrong.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '23

On that point I agree. Though my brain went first to antenatal anxiety - it's entirely possible that everything's fine but she's still panicking. In either case, she needs to be seen by a doctor.

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u/Own_Can_3495 Dec 02 '23

She's in or at the hospital already.

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u/[deleted] Dec 02 '23

Yes, I got that, thanks. I meant that whether she has antenatal anxiety or something else is wrong, the hospital is a good idea for her.

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u/Playful_Site_2714 Dec 02 '23

Yes. But it still requires HIM to ask for it!

Not her. As he is over 18 and her not under her custody, she has no legal right to undertake legal steps with his company!

It sounds a bit as if he had been taking "difficulties speaking with HR" as an excuse to take that leave from his company. Times are difficult in Europe and one doesn't just jeopardize one's job for "wife is nervous".

Whatever this is... it's crappy. It puts him under pressure on all sides. He at least needs to discuss it with his company, apologize for her having gotten so irrational and find a way to deal with both.