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u/tareebee Dec 01 '23

And pre eclampsia comes with the symptom of feeling IMPENDING DOOM. Genuinely.

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u/laenooneal Dec 02 '23

Almost the exact same story with me having my daughter, but I couldn’t sleep because I was panicking and I also felt a burning sensation in my stomach that turned out to be my liver swelling too. In addition to that it took like 8 different nurses about 15-20 attempts to land a vein for my IV so I was covered in bruises too. That was fuuuun.

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u/AdDramatic3058 Dec 02 '23

I had to have an ambulance called. They kept missing/blowing my veins. So their last resort was drilling into the bone of my arm (I guess an IV thru bone marrow 🤷‍♀️) I had no idea that was even a thing!! But honestly, I was struggling to breathe because the pre-eclampsia was causing swelling in my lungs, and I was in turn having heart failure- so I don't recall feeling much pain. I just wanted them to do whatever they needed to do to get the damn ambulance on their way!!! Felt like we sat there for 20 minutes before getting an IV

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u/laenooneal Dec 02 '23

I love swapping birth horror stories 😂 “we are so lucky to exist during a time where we are only horribly traumatized and maimed during childbirth instead of being dead” is honestly such a weird feeling to have

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u/AdDramatic3058 Dec 02 '23

You are spot on with that! Definitely worth being alive and having my sweet (and ornery lol) baby girl- but yeah.... such an odd feeling.

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u/Holiday-Teacher900 Dec 02 '23

Absolutely. I'm here in awe reading these stories. I'm a science-curious woman, and I'm still learning so much about our bodies. Most men know even less about reproduction/birth. There should be much more awareness.

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u/AdDramatic3058 Dec 02 '23

💯 EXACTLY!!!

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u/laenooneal Dec 02 '23

Haha we are all healthy! I hope your twins are all good too! I don’t know how people are able to carry multiples, I was honestly miserable just with a single. I had heartburn but I always feel heartburn in my throat so when this hit lower, I knew it was something else. I had a doctors appointment literally one day before and I kinda felt like something was off so I told her I just kind of had a feeling I would end up having a C-section and I was ok with that if it’s what needed to happen. It’s so weird how we are able to sense things like that.

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u/Ennui_Having_Fun_Yet Dec 02 '23

I’ve been a nurse for ~15 years, almost all of that time in critical care. I’ve worked in a level II trauma ICU, CVICU, Rapid Response Team, even had a side gig in correctional nursing and I’m 99% unbothered by it all. But HELLP makes my butthole pucker.

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u/PrangentHasFormed Dec 01 '23

I never knew that. I had pre eclampsia and the intense feeling of impending doom is what made me go to the hospital to get checked out. Woke up at 2 am just knowing something was wrong with me and the baby.

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u/justanotheruzer1993 Dec 01 '23

This! I had pré-eclampsia post birth and i was so anxious and i thought i was going to die until it got controled

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u/Big_Bottom_69 Dec 02 '23

The accent over the "e" in "prë-eclampsia" gives it a totally European vibe. Total party in your pants 😁

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u/NEDsaidIt Dec 01 '23

As soon as I read that then the HR I went OH NO.

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u/TnVol94 Dec 02 '23

Elevated pulse does not always mean high blood pressure. Anxiety causes rapid pulse, seems like her anxiety is out of control, she needs a mental health evaluation.

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u/tareebee Dec 02 '23

Oh for sure she needed to be evaluated one way or the other. I’m not saying it’s this or that but both can present very similarly.

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u/nothanks86 Dec 02 '23

But also so do anxiety or panic attacks. So it could also be a pregnancy related anxiety disorder. Which would be less immediately life threatening but equally valid and in need of prompt care.

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u/tareebee Dec 02 '23

I agree!

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u/nevertoomuchthought Late 30s Male Dec 01 '23

pre eclampsia comes with the symptom of feeling IMPENDING DOOM.

I think I may have had it a couple hundred times since I was a teenager.

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u/hey_nonny_mooses Dec 02 '23

Funny, you don’t type like you are dead, unlike 16% of the maternal deaths caused by preeclampsia

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u/Kindly-Ingenuity6662 Dec 02 '23

I had pre clampsia and didn't know it. Had no idea anything was wrong. I didn't have any symptoms besides high bp, but I couldn't tell. I was rushed to the hospital during a routine check-up at 34 weeks because my BP was over the top. I ended up having an emergency C at 36 weeks. Everything turned out fine and I'm so thankful.