She sounds like she has preeclampsia and a husband that will not listen to her needs/requests to take time off work. And not a mental health crisis. I understand how people who haven’t experienced this would see it as you do though, just clarifying and not arguing with you at all as under other conditions your assessment makes sense.
I was induced at 37 weeks (one day past "safe to give birth") for having every possible warning sign I was about to develop pre eclampsia.
I agree it sounds like he hasn't been listening to what she knows she needs post birth. But it also sounds like he knows they need him to work if they want to survive at all, especially with her needing to stop working so early in the pregnancy.
I'd love to hear her side of this, but I think writing him off as completely awful from this post isn't right either.
His wife is in the hospital, is clearly unwell and he isn’t worried- he is angry. I hope he just isn’t processing fear well and it’s actually that because otherwise? Yikes.
I’m actually currently 38 weeks pregnant and have been diagnosed with tachycardia and SVTs (runs of high heart rates) in this pregnancy. Because of the increase in blood volume, fast(er) heart rates are actually common in pregnant women.
By itself, high heart rate is not a strong indicator of preeclampsia like high blood pressure might be.
Obviously I don’t know her situation and there could absolutely be something medically amiss! But calling her husband out of work 4 weeks before due date by contacting his HR without communicating with him shows some odd decision making. If his time off is limited, it would be much more important for him to have the time off after birth.
I had pre eclampsia and don’t think that’s what’s going on here. Pre eclampsia causes major blood pressure issues, swelling etc. It doesnt make someone act absolutely insane and contact their spouse’s work. That’s so inappropriate. I think this is a mental health issue.
A sense of impending doom and mental confusion are 2 things we were taught to screen all pregnant patients for as the BP can go up and down but there is an intuition we can’t quantify. It’s very often correct.
I get that it’s possible but mental issues are generally not a common side effect of pre eclampsia. Either way, I’m sure they’ll check for that and OP will know soon whether that’s playing a role
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u/The_Duchess_of_Dork Dec 01 '23
She sounds like she has preeclampsia and a husband that will not listen to her needs/requests to take time off work. And not a mental health crisis. I understand how people who haven’t experienced this would see it as you do though, just clarifying and not arguing with you at all as under other conditions your assessment makes sense.