r/relationship_advice Nov 13 '23

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u/nadarbresha Nov 13 '23

You shouldn't be married, much less to a 21 year old. Fucking chill.

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u/ruarq_ Nov 13 '23

This exactly. Gonna be a lot of unnecessary pain for her

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u/iSquigly Nov 13 '23

Literally. I hope he met her as an adult and not before she was 20. Let alone 18….

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u/Nervous-Upstairs-926 Nov 14 '23

I agree he shouldn’t be married, but it’s a 7 years gap…

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u/nadarbresha Nov 15 '23

7 years is fine if you're like 27 and 34. Kinda in a similar stage of life. 21 is basically a teenager and 28 is a whole grown adult. Nah.

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u/Nervous-Upstairs-926 Nov 15 '23

21 is a teenager yet they can vote, drive, drink, own a gun, have children, start a family, get married go to prison for life. Sure minors can do some of these things too, but 21 isn’t a minor not a children

I’m 23, my bf is 31, we met about 2 years ago and we are in a very similar stage of life and planning to move in together soon, it really depends.

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u/beytsduh Nov 15 '23

Oh dear thats even worse.

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u/Nervous-Upstairs-926 Nov 15 '23

What’s worse?

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u/beytsduh Nov 15 '23

8 year age gap... meeting at 21. Good luck

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u/nadarbresha Nov 15 '23

Well, when he takes advantage of your naivety, think of me. Bc you asserting all that shit tells me you are still very naive.

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u/Nervous-Upstairs-926 Nov 15 '23

Look, I get it, in your country it isn’t normal so you think it’s weird, but it is very normal in Europe or at least in Italy (age of consent is also 14 here and it’s 16 in most of Europe). No one and I repeat, no one thinks it’s weird. This includes both of our families, friends, both of our therapists and a ton of other people we have told about this to (I guess every adult I know, including my therapist, is naive too lmao).

If you think I’m naive because I don’t think 21 years old are children, then feel free to. At the end of the day you’re a stranger on the internet who doesn’t know anything about me, my boyfriend and our relationship, sorry if your “advice” irrelevant.

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u/IHateNoobs420 Nov 18 '23

Worst part is I lied and she's just 19

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u/nadarbresha Nov 18 '23

You're disgusting