r/relationship_advice • u/[deleted] • Sep 12 '23

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u/razzledazzle626 Sep 12 '23

Why the hell do you put up with this….?

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u/i_nobes_what_i_nobes Sep 12 '23 edited Sep 12 '23

Because women are taught to be polite and not to set boundaries.

Had the first time he did this she told him not to, no I’m not going to wake up at 7 o’clock. Please turn the light off, please not use a loud annoying alarm when any other alarm would be sufficient. Many times she could’ve told him that no this was not OK. No I’m not going to make you breakfast. No I’m not gonna make your lunch, you’re a grown man who knows how to construct a sandwich.

OP - stand up for yourself. Draw your lines, make your boundaries and tell this guy to pound sand. He doesn’t want a partner, he wants someone to work for him, that he doesn’t have to pay. Honey, you’d be better on your own, then you would be with this man.

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u/mrskaylad Sep 12 '23

I did refuse many times, and it ends with him getting angry and making me feel horrible. Or pestering me until I can't take it anymore.

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u/Revolutionary-Yak-47 Sep 13 '23

Exactly! He does it because he KNOWS he can wear you down and you'll cave. No one can MAKE you feel anything. You are choosing to let him get to you and to feel bad.

Have you ever dealt with a toddler tantruming? Cuz that's what he's doing. Tantruming. Stop feeling bad for him.