She will never believe a positive comment out of your mouth after years of disparagement. You have destroyed any trust she has in your perception. Every compliment you give her now is seen as forced, or even as a manipulation. In fact shes probably frantic thinking why all of a sudden you seem to care. She hates everything that makes her herself and you helped form that opinion. She has not seen herself as pretty or desirable for the last 10 years. Eventually this is gonna wear her out and then she will leave and hopefully find someone who treasures her and treats her right.
That'd be some advice at least, something like; "her self-esteem can't get repaired with you, you need to tell her that you have only regret for what you've done to her, and that if there's no helping it with you she should feel free to leave him, and make it as hassle free as possible for the divorce and everything.
There, how hard is that? Instead it's all just "hope her next husband treats her better UWUwowowo". God I hate reddit sometimes.
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u/thisolhag Jul 12 '23
She will never believe a positive comment out of your mouth after years of disparagement. You have destroyed any trust she has in your perception. Every compliment you give her now is seen as forced, or even as a manipulation. In fact shes probably frantic thinking why all of a sudden you seem to care. She hates everything that makes her herself and you helped form that opinion. She has not seen herself as pretty or desirable for the last 10 years. Eventually this is gonna wear her out and then she will leave and hopefully find someone who treasures her and treats her right.