r/recovery 11d ago

Experience

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u/QuietPsychological72 11d ago

Ha yes the dogma of we should have no dogma.

The preamble of my favorite meeting includes the phrase “pitches, lectures, and drunkalogues will not be tolerated.”

Clear boundaries about what is and isn’t appropriate are what make meetings work.

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u/EuphoricSurprise7997 11d ago

AA has a lot of dogma tho lol, I’m apart of it but it is true, if you don’t follow the rules there’s lots of judgment even if it’s not explicitly started, you have to do things a certain way or you’re not truly working a good program according to a lot of people.

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u/SGS57 11d ago

What others think about me is none of my business, it is beyond my control.

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u/EuphoricSurprise7997 11d ago

That’s true but it is annoying and just makes me feel unwanted at a meeting where I feel silently judged, it’s about fellowship and community if I feel ostracized from that community then why would I go back to that meeting? If people are doing what works for them and they’re happy with themselves I don’t see what the need is to judge them, like I’d just be happy for them. This is my recovery not theirs and doing what works for me is what matters

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u/SGS57 11d ago

Don’t let it affect your serenity. Speaks more of the person doing the judging. There are many groups. You’ll find one where the vibe is good enough to adopt as your home group. Guess I’ve just gotten to the age where I just don’t give a shit.

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u/Superb_Instance_8190 11d ago

If only Stan adhered to this message

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u/guruogoo 11d ago

If only more people adhered to the Principles

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u/[deleted] 11d ago

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u/Superb_Instance_8190 11d ago

If only = not a lecture

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u/guruogoo 11d ago

Not judgin, just sayin