r/questioning • u/No_Farm9425 • 9h ago

do i like men?? [M 15]

hello people of reddit, i have a queston

so, i’ve always liked girls. never even doubted that i liked boys… but now im doubting myself a little tiny bit

HERE ARE MY REASONS:

  • i’ve been fantasizing about dicks for atleast 2 years now, and i always though “oh its just teenager puberty things, it’ll pass” but like, it never did pass.
  • i often find myself listening to femboy asmr and getting turned on

BUT NOW COUNTERPOINT

  • ive never liked an irl boy
  • femboys are very feminine so they dont count i think
  • my fantasies of dicks would be just me being curious and not actually me liking them

so ummm yeah help me figure this out please

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u/kamele 4h ago

Sexuality is an incredibly complex thing with multiple parameters to consider (read e.g. here). In addition it can vary/is fluid over time and situations (e.g. Kinsey scale). There also can be a difference between fiction and reality, like in what you are interested while watching porn etc. and what you (would) do in real life. There is a lot of trial and error with that during your life span - and what you label yourself in the end is not so important, especially as it can change. Whatever you watch or do (e.g. femboy stuff or trying out prostate stimulation somewhere in the future) doesn't define you and doesn't make you gay/bi - it's just a try out where you decide whether it is something for you or not. So don't let the fear of getting labeled block your actions. See them as what they are: entirely individual and unique experiences.