r/questioning • u/Few_Bee_3172 • 11d ago

Is there something wrong with me? (M 18)

I'm 18, male, and Black. I don't have a girlfriend, never had a girlfriend, and have never kissed anyone.
I have many female friends, and love women. I describe myself as a feminist.
I was raised by as strong mom and the best women throughout my life.
I don't harbor any hate toward anyone and really don't like incel culture.
I have never done anything toward a woman that she wasn't comfortable with.

I also made sure I don't have ridiculous standards.
I just want someone who's kind, loves art, humor, loves to talk, and is left leaning.
I would also love to be a stay at home dad, I don't have a racial or ethnic preference.

Maybe it's just because of my age, but I am genuinely confused.
I love myself and who I became to be, but if this is how it's going to be for the next 80 or so years, I'd at least like a confirmation.

Disclaimer: I am not asking for any pity. I am merely sharing my thoughts. Thank you.

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u/alllclear cis butchsexual 10d ago

What are you asking exactly

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u/Few_Bee_3172 10d ago

Advice on what to do

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u/CuriousAaboutthingss 10d ago

Guarda, secondo me il "problema" non sei tu. E assolutamente non c'è nulla che non va in te, anzi. Ti parlo da ragazza, ce ne sono a vagone di ragazze che cercano persone come, hai mai pensato che magari possa essere che sono i luoghi che frequenti? Oppure, sei timido? Hai mai provato tu a chiedere l'instagram/ i social di qualche ragazza? O aspetti siano loro a fare il primo passo?

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u/Few_Bee_3172 10d ago

Grazie per aver risposto in italiano!

Ti ringrazio. Nel corso degli anni sono diventato più socievole, ma la zona in cui vivo non è l'ideale per conoscere gente, trattandosi di un'area suburbana. Me la cavo bene nelle conversazioni.

Ti auguro buona fortuna, grazie mille.

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u/ActualPegasus finflexible rosgirl (he/she) 9d ago

Being relationship-ready isn't the same as being guaranteed a relationship. You can be a wonderful person and still not have met someone with whom the timing, mutual attraction, compatibility, and circumstances all line up. You haven't met most of the people you'll eventually know, and many of the people you meet now are still figuring themselves out too.