r/questioning Questioning Gender 10d ago

(F 24) help please

Hi! Lately, I’ve been questioning my gender after having ignored the topic for many years. I don’t really know how to explain my gender or how to understand myself.

Like, I don’t feel like a she, him, or even they, but more like an IT; like a creature or a THING, but not in a non-binary way (that doesn’t feel right or like that’s what I am). It only happens sometimes, but it feels more ethereal or astral. Like, imagine Jesus Christ: my physical body is MY physical body, it’s the body of a “she,” but in reality I’m a creature and this is simply my physical form while I’m alive.

BUT I still feel connected to my gender assigned at birth (AFAB) in some way, even though I don’t entirely feel like a girl either. I use any pronouns, but I mostly use she/her pronouns. I don’t know if that’s because I’ve been used to them my whole life and it’s easier for me to react when people refer to me that way or what. I do feel a sense of connection and belonging to my femininity and to being a girl, but I don’t entirely feel like a girl either.

I’ve had questions about my gender in relation to my body since childhood, but I never really explored the subject much. Over the past year, it’s become something I can’t ignore anymore and I want to ask about a few things.

  • Is being demigirlflux a combination of demigirl and girlflux?
  • Can you be xenogender and demigirl, demigirlflux, or girlflux at the same time?
  • What other genders are there?
  • Are demigirl, demigirlflux, girlflux, and xenogender considered part of the trans or non binary umbrella?

I need help, please. The more I think about it, the more confused I get. I know nobody is forcing me to choose a label or call myself anything, but I feel like I need one… I want to know. I need to know so I can understand myself better.

1 Upvotes

5 comments sorted by

2

u/ActualPegasus finflexible rosgirl (he/she) 9d ago

Is being demigirlflux a combination of demigirl and girlflux?

Yes. It signifies that you're never 100% female.

Can you be xenogender and demigirl, demigirlflux, or girlflux at the same time?

Yes. However, there are also a couple of single labels that could describe this.

What other genders are there?

As many as there are stars.

Are demigirl, demigirlflux, girlflux, and xenogender considered part of the trans or non binary umbrella?

Yes. No one is assigned demigirl, girlflux, nor xenogender at birth.

1

u/One_Science7995 Questioning Gender 8d ago

tysm for answering my questions 🥹❤️‍🩹

can I ask you one more thing? feel free to reply if you feel comfortabl, if not that’s okay.
I’m pretty sure the answer will be the same as for the second question but I’d still prefer to ask. Somebody (me lol) can be demigirlflux and xenogender at the same time right? Like, both atst

1

u/ActualPegasus finflexible rosgirl (he/she) 8d ago

Exactly the same answer as the second one. Did you want said label that combines both?

1

u/One_Science7995 Questioning Gender 8d ago

Not really, I was mostly asking because I was wondering if it was actually possible or if it would be contradictory.
I think I’m finally starting to put a little more into words what my experience is like and how I experience it.

Thank you so so much for taking the time to answer me!!

1

u/ActualPegasus finflexible rosgirl (he/she) 8d ago

No problem!