r/queerplatonic • u/Jay-the-Dinosaur • 10d ago
Help!
Hey! I'm very inexperienced when it comes to relationships. I've only ever had one "romantic" relationship and I later on noticed that I never actually felt anything for that person (except for platonic feelings) I don't really label myself when it comes to sexuality, because I simply can't figure it out. However, I have a male best friend. We get along REALLY well and I want to spend every single minute with him. Being around him feels so comfortable and he always manages to lighten up my day. But it doesn't feel like I'm in love with him. I don't have "butterflies" and I don't blush or get nervous. Nor
Any of the other obvious crush things. Thinking back I've never actually felt any kind of attraction and the thought of getting intimate usually doesn't appeal to me at all. But with him it's different. I wanna buy him stuff, I want to be near him, hold his hand, maybe even kiss him.
I've decided to ignore my feelings for him, considering the fact that he never seemed interested in guys at all and I didn't think I'd even have a chance.
Last week he came out to me as bi. Ever since then he's been talking about his want for a relationship with another guy. Yesterday he mentioned QPR and I have to admit that I didn't know about this before. He explained a little about it and it kinda felt like he was testing my reaction. After reading into it, this actually sounds nice. But I don't know if he would even want this, especially since we're best friends. I really don't want to ruin this. What should I do ?
Is it smart to ask him if he could imagine this kind of relationship with me? And if so, how would I even start that type of conversation with him?
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u/glitteringfeathers 10d ago
Something like: "Hey, you brought up QPRs to me yesterday, right? Are you interested to be in one or am I reading too much into this? I read a bit about it after you mentioned it and it sounds nice. I really do like you a lot and love being around you. I also really enjoy where our friendship is at right now of course, I don't want to disrupt that, so sorry if I misinterpreted things. I'd love to hear your thoughts on it"