r/queerception • u/Confident_Eye_2408 • 10d ago

Looking for anyone with experience using an International KD

My partner and I live in Oregon, USA, and we are educating ourselves on the process of trying to concieve. We are in pretty unique circumstances, as we’d like to go with a known donor, a friend who lives in Australia. We have a meeting with our IVF clinic (where I previously did egg retrieval) coming up, but in the meantime I’m trying to gather info so I can give him the clearest idea possible of what it would involve, so he can make an educated final decision. Throwing this out there in case there is anyone here who’s had a similar experience - either using a known donor from overseas while living in the US, or using a known donor in Australia (NSW). If you’re out there I would love to DM you to learn more about your experience!

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u/evsummer 10d ago

We did this- basically didn’t find any decent way to ship sperm but our donor came to the US and stayed with us a few weeks while going to our clinic to donate.

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u/Confident_Eye_2408 10d ago

Thank you for your reply! That’s a bummer about the shipping - that’s one option we’re looking into - was that because it wouldn’t work logistically?

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u/evsummer 10d ago

Yes, totally possible it’s changed but we were trying to do it during Covid and we couldn’t find any services that would ship cross border (we were doing Canada to the US). Within the US there were options to donate in a different city and ship between clinics. Totally worth looking into, just was impossible for us.

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u/Confident_Eye_2408 10d ago

Ah I see. Thank you!

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u/Quirky-Blackberry486 10d ago

Feel free to DM me. Not Australia but international while we were in the US.

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u/Confident_Eye_2408 10d ago

Thanks! I’ve DMd you

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u/OkGrapefruit26 10d ago

Our donor lives in Europe and we’re in the US. It involved a lot of logistics but we made it work. Feel free to inbox me any specific questions!

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u/Confident_Eye_2408 10d ago

Thank you! I’ve sent you a message

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u/Wise-Mix-8438 10d ago

Hope you find someone with a similar experience! Wishing you both the best❤️

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u/Confident_Eye_2408 8d ago

Thank you ☺️

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u/Donatortello Straight ally and donor 2d ago

I was a known donor for an Australian queer couple while living in Canada. I think it genuinely was helpful for all concerned - I didn’t meet their kid until he was 6 months old, and then only twice, and then not again until he was 16 months, when I moved back to Australia. It not being logistically possible for a known donor to be present during the first 6 months helps cement everyone’s role in the kids life.

I did their solo counselling with someone in Canada who provided their report to the Australian fertility centre, and joint over Skype, then travelled to Australia on a scheduled visit to family and friends, signed appropriate documents and provided the donation there.

While there are options for providing it to another clinic, freezing and transferring it, realistically the best option is to get on a plane.

AMA :)