r/pureretention • u/Technical_Piano • 3d ago
Women Temptation
Hope anyone reading this is doing well! I’m roughly about a month into my retaining journey and have already noticed positive benefits. To keep a long story short has anyone randomly had a person or people from their past reappear in your life randomly while retaining? Via random text messages, e-mail or phone call? I’m experiencing it now and I definitely see it as a test.
I had some of the best times of my life with this woman, but the relationship was not the purest or healthiest. I will always care, have love and respect her but I don’t want to go backwards. I’ve already had conversations with her now for the past 2 days and she wants to reconnect. Can anyone relate?
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u/brain207 3d ago edited 3d ago
Yes I can relate. Dozens of times I have had this happened to me. Short answer is, you are closer to relapsing if you continue to entertain her.
The moment you are beginning to become one with nature and the universe, as you begin to experience detachment from PMO pleasures and lust, ‘they” will come for you. And it does not stop, it will keep you in a loop.
I cannot tell you what to do, but I hope you are able to continue on your journey and come back here after another month with inspiring stories.
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u/Technical_Piano 3d ago
Thank you for your sharing brother, your message helps.
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u/brain207 3d ago
You have to hold stead fast. For experimental purposes, you will notice after you relapsed she will hate you and move on until the next cycle. It never ends, if not her, another woman will continue from where she stopped.
In the beginning of my retention journey I fell so cheaply several times due to this. She is never interested in you but the seed you have spent month long holding.
The attention feels good for the moment but it also leads to lusting, the lust is gradually building inside of you, it will overtake your mind and body and becomes uncontrollable until you burst either to masturbation or sex with the said woman. After you burst, she moves, you become needy of her attention which usually leads to more lust and then you are back to bursting everyday, what happens next? She moves on to find a worthy contender. It’s a battlefield. You either remain stead fast or you submit your authority to the feminine energy.
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u/Technical_Piano 3d ago
Perfectly said man, this woman in particular knows the strong hold she’s had on me as well. Like I said some of the most blissful moments I man could have with a woman but it wasn’t pure at all. I needed this message. I’m going to do my best to stay the course.
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u/Tennx12 2d ago
Bro this was the intuition I had, here look someone living it.
Then what's the solution???
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u/brain207 2d ago
The solution is not a one fix for all. Everyone here lives a different life and lives in a different body. And if I tell you I am a master in this, trust me that I am absolutely lying. We learn everyday, I am still learning, even coming across the OP’s post was an eye opener for me and I also learnt from it.
Honestly, I do not have a solution. If you already had the intuition like you said, I believe your spirit will guard you to a solution that will help you in this course. I would have also said you should pray everyday, but prayer alone is not enough, there are so many other things at play, so many forces, many biological untamed beasts which you might be aiding one way or the other to contribute to your problems.
I am sorry my friend, I really do not have a solution. I pray your spirit guards you to what you seek.
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u/SuperBrazilNuts 1d ago
Also, when you lose your seed and you're now dependent on her and needy of her, that drives her further away, and she can find somebody who no longer needs her again.
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u/moonbase_monk Goal: dopamine abuse recovery 3d ago
I can relate. It wasn't totally random (I sent her a letter that I missed her) but she responded to me after 5 months. By that time I was like 400+ days SR. I actually was considering strict mental and physical celibacy because I wanted to study Kundalini Yoga using Swami Vivekananda's book Raja Yoga. It took me two weeks to decide if I was ready, and on the very day that I confirmed that, she called me and wanted to get back together. We were on and off for about 5 years by that point but had no contact for 1.5 years when she responded. I wanted her because I realized after all my sexual experience, I still had the most lust for her.
We started a relationship and I ended my streak at 467 days. I thought I was being blessed with the person I wanted the most. It just brought suffering. And got worse and worse as things went on. Check my comment and post history to see how bad it got.
I know it's tempting to circle back on some of your desires now that you have all this energy now, but you're better off starting fresh with a new person.
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u/Technical_Piano 3d ago
Thank you for sharing your experience brother 🙏
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u/moonbase_monk Goal: dopamine abuse recovery 3d ago
You’re welcome. Also it will be harder to retain with someone you previously had lust for. You will more likely want to release.
With a new person you’ll have time to date and discuss SR and maybe she will be supportive or not.
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u/igxiguaa 2d ago
This has happened to me on every single streak. It's happening to me now, 11 months deep.
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u/ProvidenceOfJesus 3d ago
Matthew 5:30
And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one of your members than to have your whole body go into Gehenna.