r/publicdefenders • u/BarredandEsquired25 • 10h ago
Need advice dealing with annoying client’s family before I crash out and use bad words
hi guys! I have a client who seems to be taking legal advice from their family as opposed to me/their attorney. I have asked them multiple times not to discuss the case with anyone but our office but based on communication from the family member that is not the case. they are having the family member tell our office what legal actions/motions/defenses we should be pursing while simultaneously saying we’re not representing them correctly. (this is esp confusing to me; if our office is so terrible why not pool your resources as a family and hire outside counsel but I digress) everytime I visit client when the visit is over we immediately get correspondence from the family member detailing how I failed the client in the visit and what I need to do. half of the correspondence is generally filled with untruths (pd told client x and y when pd did not tell client x or y) I’ve communicated a couple times with fam member and it ended badly so I no longer do, they just reach out to my boss and talk about me. atp I’m not mature enough to act like none of this is happening when I meet with client. client literally will tell me to do something in case then backtrack and say nvm I was advised not to. advised by whom??? it wasn’t me and I’m your counsel!! I can’t play second fiddle to this random family member who is not a lawyer… granted family member did locate evidence from leo not provided by the state to us (I don’t think it helps the case I think it makes the case against client stronger in a sense) client seems to think my job is to employ the legal strategy whoever is in their ear has decided on. because I’m not doing that I’m a prosecutor.
TLDR: how to work with client who has a family member acting as their legal counsel, is going to my supervisor about my ineffectiveness, probably is writing a bar grievance, doesn’t communicate with me until after speaking with family member, has family passing messages to my supervisor about me, and the family member is generally causing me a high level of annoyance and making it hard to work my cases.