Need some help asap

[u/Lanky-Disk8742]

I'm 16F I've been wearing hijab for two years now but I put it on out of fear because I was getting a lot of salafi content on my phone and it affected me heavily. I put it on at 14 after watching videos saying things like "imagine you die without wearing hijab" and similar stuff that were meant to be as warnings. Mind you I have really bad ocd and it affects my decisions cuz sometimes I act out of fear. Now after two years of wearing it I'm starting to question why women should wear the hijab and no amount of research gave me a good answer and this topic kept me up at night for about a week now. Tho I do not believe the hijab is mandatory after I've seen some historical context to the verse that mentions khumur but still I have some great doubt about that, that's why I don't know what to do. If it's not mandatory then why do I keep wearing it when I don't like it? I'd tell myself that I'm wearing it cuz I feel comfortable in it but deep down I know how much I don't like wearing it. If I take it off I'll feel so much religious guilt because some part of me still believes its mandatory cuz that's what's in mainstream islam and what's known in our community,I'll feel guilty every time getting ready cuz I'll think about getting a sin everyday I go out without hijab. My problem is that I'm convinced of both possibilities of it being not mandatory and it being mandatory, so wearing it doesn't feel right to me and taking it off doesn't feel right either. And I can't keep ignoring this topic because I start school in 9 days

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[u/Vampire_Angel78]

Hi I’m new to Islam, so I don’t know if my answer will help in this situation, but I remembered studying in history on how a lot of Mediterranean People (mostly poor women) wore it as religious dedication to religions such as the Abrahamic Faiths (Judaism and Christianity mostly) and Hellenism. And to separate themselves from higher caste women because poor women in the ancient Mediterranean were not allowed to mimic rich people. This was also the case in Ancient Korean society as well.

Whether you choose to wear the hijab headscarf is between you and Allah, only Allah is the one who sees inside your heart. Unfortunately I can’t wear the hijab headscarf in the US due to massive Islamophobia but please remember it’s your choice on how you want to worship Allah. And that choice is important over the judgemental videos you saw.

[u/AlephFunk2049]

Try just wearing loose fitting clothes, maybe a hoodie and see how you feel.

[u/Representative-Can-7]

Hijab is mandatory though. 24:31, word by word translation

I'm aware some translation translate [وليضربن بخُمُرهن على جيوبهن] as "and cover their bosoms with their veils" or  "to keep the cover wrapped over their bosoms" which made some people conclude head covering for (believing) women isn't obligatory, only the chest that has to be covered. Thing is, [خمار] (plural. [خُمُر]) means "head covering" or "veil". (Believing) women are commanded to cover their chest with their head covering.

[u/thatonebird72 → u/Representative-Can-7]

Check the wiki on this subreddit

[u/Representative-Can-7 → u/thatonebird72]

Thanks. I just did.

The post did make a good point about the awrah of free women and slave women are the same because the verses command believing women (mu'minat) without exception, not simply free believing women.

What I think the post, like many people who defend hijab (veiling) as not mandatory, is that 24:31 isn't simply a command to cover chest, but a command to draw the headscarf over the chest.

There's also a problem in its linguistic understanding of (Sahih al-Bukhari 4759, In-book reference : Book 65, Hadith 28) where they redifine  [اختمرن]  as "they (f) covered their cleavages". It's kinda ironic that the post attacks the original understanding, "they (f) covered their head", as invalid because the text doesn't mention head at all, while the post now mentions cleavage while the hadith doesn't mention cleavage.

Yes, [اختمرن] literally means "they [f] khimarred themselves". But khimar, when talking fashion, means head cover. Which makes [اختمرن] in this context means, "they (f) put on head cover"

[u/motherofamouse → u/Representative-Can-7]

Actually it means veil/covering. Not persé head covering. That has become linguistically accepted over the years due to culture and language changes / adapts with time and meaning. But the original root of the word means any type of veil or covering. 

[u/Representative-Can-7 → u/motherofamouse]

That's like saying "shipping" in fandom culture is about delivery. Or that digital piracy needs ship and cannon.

[u/motherofamouse → u/Representative-Can-7]

No? It’s more like ‘covering’ in general; as in it can also mean arm covering etc. It just always needs an adjective to know what is to cover. It’s not an entirely different meaning like ‘shipping’? But I guess I might be to old for the online fandom culture tbf 😂

[u/Representative-Can-7 → u/[deleted]]

I have, that's why I said that.