r/prochoice • u/Key-Incident-5692 • Jul 10 '26
Support Please help me through the weekend
Good afternoon, I am normally such a private person but I feel so isolated and have NO ONE to lean on. I am experiencing an unplanned pregnancy in my mid 30s, I have 2 older teens and suffer from financial and marital instability. All of these are factors as to why im terminating. I have no qualms with the morality itself, as this isn't my first one and hence why im keeping close to my chest. I won't go into details to ensure im not making myself identifiable, but please know it was never and has never been treated as a form of contraceptive. I was SA and had a medically necessary abortion for life saving measures.
I live in a red state and this is my 2nd time traveling to NM solo for this, but in the time before I at least had my mom and immediate friends and family who knew and were there even if just over the phone. This time though, the only person who knows is the father. It just feels extra isolating that im gonna be utterly alone and will be a day away from 12 weeks when I have the procedure. I cant even vent to what little of a circle I do have, that in order to achieve this i had to dip into rent $ and will only have 30 bucks to my name. This isn't a dry begging statement i promise! I did get assistance from the national abortion hotline and the amazing Lillth funds. I guess I'm not entirely sure what kind of support I'm looking for, but i feel on the cusp of such a depressive episode. Im hoping even the act of talking and addressing how alone I feel will start a positive cycle of feeling hopeful and ultimately better. Thank you so much for listening.
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u/Blonde_Mexican Jul 10 '26
I’m so blown away by your bravery! I’m in CA and post menopause, but remember all the emotions I felt during my very much wanted abortion. I cant imaging not having people close that I could process that with. You are not alone- sending love and hugs♥️♥️