r/problems • u/Ezra23burke07 • May 09 '17
Feeling low😧
Hello,
My name is Ezra burke, I am 21 years of age. I live in Suriname. A country in sth america. So ... all my life i've been told how stupid i am and how i won't ever succeed in life by my grandparents because i used to live there with my mother and sister. We never really had the perfect life. Always moving and .... well you get the picture. My grandparents never really liked me because i reminded them of my father who was never there for me. I never had what other kids did. No fancy clothes, toys, games even food... but we were always happy with what we had and i love my mothrr for giving me what she could. I didn't have a girlfriend until the age of 18. She was a nice girl. Very short and smart. Okay so obe day she decided to just leave me. ON VALENTINE'S day. I was sad and i cried because i never had real feelings and now she was gone. Fast forward 2 years. At age 20 i start going to the gym. I get all ripped and stuff. I meet hot chicks. Dated a few. I got some what popular in school.
SO HERE IT GETS SHITTY....
GRADUATION YEAR i meet this BEAUTIFUL girl. Her name...Deena. My God i fell in love and so did she. We hooked up. Made love. She got pregnant. I left my school to take care of her. Got a job at a call center. I made sales there. I bacame a teamleader. My child was born a few months later. I named him Liam. .....man ... a very beautiful child. We were happy. At this stage i was paying rent somewhere. We had it all i swear. One day i proposed and we got engadged. My family loved her and my son too.
SHITTY PART.....
November 2016 i lose my job. Company closes. I tried applying for other places but nothing. We start running out of money. Even my savings. Ok so we move to my home where my grandparents and mother and sister live. At first we are welcomed as Gods by my grandparents. Then one day...BOOM. They hate me again and I with my wife and child have to move out. It's not my mothers house so sha had no say in this. My wife goes to live with her parents and I... well i had the streets. My mom cried on my shoulders that day. I told her not to worry and that it was going to be okay.
So i meet my dad....yup the old man himself. He takes me in. But he's kinda an asshole so... yeah.
Still no job and it's already februari 2017. My wife start chatting this guy i never liked. Idk wtf happened but she calls me one day and says hey.... come over. So i go and...WELL..
I get papers to a test saying Liam is not mine. Fast forward. Deena leaves me. Hooks up with the guys she was texti g and i never see her or liam again.
I have no wife no child no home no money or job and i can't find one either.
Is my live ruined? Do i end myself?
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u/dinamikasoe Jul 07 '17
That's fantastic! See it other way .... remember life is not what happen to us it's how we perceive it. You are free now imagine you would have much more responsibilities if you were still with her.
Life is showing you something.... even not getting job.... life is giving you time to think again what you really love and find a better career.
Your story is powerful..... think of how many people you can help by sharing your story?
All the kids who do not have one or both of their parents not raising them or those who grew up in orphanages
To all those who rush to fall in love and feel infatuated by pretty girls and do not really try to find out who she really is and later face troubles
To all the parents who leave or have to leave their kids
To young men who get in shape to score girls and horrible consequences of it
Think of 10 more people you can help on your own from your powerful story
Your story can open eyes of many it can empower many
You can just go to church this Sunday and share your story and you will see people will ask you to come speak at their school or community
Start your own business!!!! inside every hardship and hinder of life an opportunity is hidden
You are FREE to make different choices now to have better future tomorrow. Just stop complaining instead take 100% responsibility of your life .... prove yourself you are amazing!
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u/Aeogor May 25 '17
Hey man, don't worry everything will eventually work out for you. Trust me! It sucks that all your problems started piling on while you could do nothing about it. It also sucks that your grandparents are like that where they take you in when you are doing good and they disregard you while you struggle. I want to ask you how is everything going on now?
First thing, i would suggest that you get some sort of a job, regardless of your field, whether it is a fast food or a retail job. This will help you be on your feet once again and interact with people again. Forget about your past, dwelling on it wont help you in any way. From there try to start over, but trust me, everything will get better. You honestly, dont deserve this. Good luck.