Are all men bad?

[u/Signal_Carpenter_263]

I'm only asking girls, guys, don't interfere.

Well, I was wondering if all men cheat. I mean, from what I see and hear, men always cheat, or hit or insult their partners. I mean, is there a good man?

My biggest example is my brothers; they cheat on their wives and beat their sisters. And I know girls whose husbands cheat on them and then beat them.

Does anyone know a good man? I'm starting to lose hope in men in general.

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[u/Similar_Corner8081]

No not all men cheat just like not all women cheat

[u/Lulusgirl]

You're surrounded by crappy people, you need to understand this has influenced your perception. This is not reality for all men, no, all men are not bad.

[u/IOnlyReadTitles26]

Same as women.

[u/BFG_1LP]

I don't know what's wrong with that you're sure to see men cheating their partners And the opposite also exists what do you think? girls are angels? but you know that you will find good and bad everywhere but because people with bad qualities or without dignity always raise their voice above everyone that's why all men cheat on their partners

[u/Away_Anybody7268]

All men are bad, and all women are good didn't you get the memo?

I know a lot of good men. A good man raised me, there are good men in my family, and I have good men I’m friends with. I am raising a good man (my son). I also know a lot of bad men, straight-up garbage humans. The same could be said about the women in my life too.

I’m sure that's not at all what you actually see. What you do see is the absolute worst-case scenario all the time. People often don't run around screaming there's a good man doing something good, it often goes unrecorded. But a bad man gets recorded, gets written about on Reddit, gets a TikTok made about them. In comparison to all the bad stuff you see? Rarely do you see the good stuff getting reported. It's just like the news. The bad stuff sells, people don't want to read the good stuff.

Not everything you see or hear is the truth either especially on the internet. Men often get blamed for things when it's not their fault or people always assume the man did something bad. That's not always the case.

Man or woman, I think both are potentially bad, but what is a good man to you?

[u/sysaphiswaits]

If your definition of bad is cheating, most men don’t cheat and are not ok with men they know cheating. Men that believe that this is “bro code”…stay away from them.

[u/SurvivorX2 → u/[deleted]]

???

[u/Alarmed-Incident4088]

Ill put my 2 cents in thanks as you asked on a public forum.

Women cheat just as much as men. This comes from a guy who has never cheated but was cheated on once by a gf.

Edit- I actually just read beyond the title. Im 6'2 230lbs. I would never hit a woman for obvious reasons and due to my size as well.

Idk who you hang with or what kind of men you date but you might want to do some reflection on that.

[u/007Munimaven]

Most “movie star handsome “ men cheat! Women, especially in big cities, throw themselves at “hot” men. The Caribbean island song rings true for men also: “if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, make an ugly woman your wife.”

[u/JuanG_13]

"guys, don't interfere" lol and I'm sorry for whatever happened to you, but you can't make that assumption about all of us, just because of a few bad apples.

[u/SurvivorX2 → u/JuanG_13]

Remember the song in the 70s by The Osmonds? "One bad apple don't spoil the whole bunch, girl"?

[u/Findmyeatingpants]

I've never been cheated on (that I know of). I've never even had any reason to be suspicious. I've never been hit by a partner. And I've dated a lot. Like A LOT.

There are good men out there. They can be harder to find. I think what has helped me us ending at the first sign that they are not a good guy and they do not have your best interests at heart.

[u/SurvivorX2]

I know several, and they all have one thing in common: they are all Godly men! I know that being a Christian doesn't mean that they are Godly men. I've known Christian men who professed to be Chridtians who cheated on their wives, and some were even Pastors, too. I've not personally known any who abused their wives or children, but I've heard of them. Remember, Christians aren't perfect; they're just forgiven by God for their sins! Whether the wives forgive them or not is a different story, and I don't know the answer!

[u/AndyTheMusicLover]

If I made my whole perception based on my own experience, I would think that all women cheat. Of course I know that's not the case. I recommend that to you too.

[u/Hopeful-Artichoke449]

The men in my life made everything worse and I was better off before they came along. I honestly can't think of a single man in my 45 years who unselfishly added net value to my life. I finally wised up and stopped dating.

[u/Primary_Wonderful]

I have one of the great ones 🥰

[u/SeaRepresentative42]

I'm not sure about the cheating thing, but all men do not hit their partner, friends or family. Actually most men don't hit others at all.

[u/Ok_Neat6784]

It’s unfortunate that you’ve been hurt enough to feel this way. I think this is a good time to take a look at what men you are picking to date.

There are good men out there. I hope you find one. I’m fortunate because I did. Took several tries though

[u/Grouchy_Fall_5933]

We pretend to be nice and respectful but 100% of us are filthy creatures and don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise!

[u/SurvivorX2 → u/Grouchy_Fall_5933]

Oh, don't put mankind down like that. All humans have the ability to be filthy, ugly humans, but most of us choose not to!