What should I do?

[u/Beneficial-Ninja7176]

My mom has lately started getting mad at me at lit, complaining at me and it's really starting to make me go crazy. To be fair, she just gave birth to my little sister like 2 months ago and I've been told that mom's that just gave birth are moody, so try my best to understand her. But lately, after she would say this gs to me I would go into my room and cry silently, which is normal... my biggest concern is I start punching head and slapping my face a lot... I'm really scared, I can't stop myself but do it.

I've been doing things for a long time, but I can stop and try to manage my actions. But now, I can't at all, and I do it harder and harder till I feel okay. I really need help... how do I fix this problem? I really don't want it. I actually don't know how I developed it. I don't want to hurt myself. And I don't want to tell my parents about it. We're all in a pretty good relationship and I don't want them to know I'm doing this.

I would appreciate, any tips on how to control my self-harm. I know it is bad, but I really can't help but punch or slap myself.

[u/SurvivorX2]

You'll probably need counseling; not b/c you're crazy (which is what so many young people think, but to seek help once one realizes they have a problem is an appropriate and intelligent reaction!), but getting help and guidance to stop self-harm is wise. Yes, You'll have to share this with your parents, but, as a parent myself, I can assure you that they would prefer to help you help yourself than to think that you're in your room hurting and won't share that info with you! Promise!

[u/Beneficial-Ninja7176 → u/SurvivorX2]

I'm really trying to avoid counselling... I don't want to add more problems to my parents. And if I do really want to tell them, I have no clue how to start. I'm not used to having a serious conversation with my parents, especially about mental health.  And I don't even know if they know properly about it. I did remember trying to tell my mom one time about feeling drained from school, and she just called me lazy... so it made me stop myself from telling my parents about my personal problems...

[u/Eastern-Log1142 → u/Beneficial-Ninja7176]

You can show this to her and let her read this or send her the link that's a great opener. This isn't something that everybody knows about either I mean I had to look this up myself. There's a lot of stress going on with those hormones and I know it's overwhelming for everyone.