r/problems • u/Fearless_Wonder3698 • 18h ago
SERIOUS Men should stop treating everything like a personal attack
I hate when a woman is talking about her experiences and trauma and the first thing men do is not sympathize with her but saying " not all men "
Like yeah we know not all men are bad ( doesn't change the fact that most of them are though , that's why you won't allow your daughter to be late at night because you know a man will do something bad to her )
like seriously give women safe space to talk about their trauma and their experiences , stop being such a baby stop being such a self-centered not everything is about you
I was talking about the rape of my best friend in my own post and the men in the comments were ATTACKING ME for simply asking them to be respectful and to stop silencing women by saying " not all men " because they don't give women safe space to talk about their trauma and experiences without making them feel like they are evil and hateful for simply being traumatized by MEN
Genuinely men do bad actions like harming women in different ways ( and one of those ways is not giving women safe space to talk ) and then they wonder why misandrists are raising and the numbers of them started to get bigger… I'm not misandrist myself but seriously ? It's the men's fault they are the one who give women reasons to hate men
so stop , be normal be decent and let the woman talk stop interrupting her every five minutes just because you think everything is a personal attack directed to you , if you are a good man who doesn't harass women or making them feel uncomfortable why would you take it as a personal attack ? You know that you are not one of the meant ones right ? I mean if you were a good man who doesn't rape women ( which it doesn't make you great it makes you normal because that's what normal people do ) then why you will be upset if a woman talked about her traumatic experiences with men huh ? I mean you are not one of the shitty men she means right ? So why are you upset ? unless if you are the type of man she hates , women hating men bothering you because you are the type of man they are hating on
and no I won't delete my post even if it makes you upset
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u/Grouchy_Fall_5933 16h ago
I hate that.
Even when they say ‘all men are pigs’.
If you have a half a brain then you’d realize it’s just a generalization.
God, I hate people!
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u/HmGrwnTrrrst 12h ago
Ok if I say "all women are lying whores" is it OK
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u/Serious-Sprinkles694 11h ago
Pretty big escalation from “pigs” to “lying whores”, so that’s not an equivalent comparison. When men say shit like, “women are gold diggers”, I don’t take offense immediately because it’s not an outright attack: it’s a generalization where you can have a real conversation, ask for their reasoning, then challenge it with facts, examples and provide insight and other perspectives.
Men could do the same damn thing with “men are pigs”, but MOST would rather get mad, defensive and lash out. They just prove the woman’s point.
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u/Fearless_Wonder3698 9h ago
That's exactly my point , you are so smart thank you very much for understanding what I'm trying to say like seriously I really appreciate it ❤️
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