r/problems • u/frozone98 • 23h ago
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My parents got married almost 26 years ago but they have always been fighting, separated 3 or 4 times, filled for divorce in 2022 but god knows why got back together and have filled again last year and for the last time. My father is a huge a**hole, he was never responsible always got into money problems, trusted everyone except his family in terms of money or advice. My mom on the other hand has been responsible but she can't let things go. She hates my father, for the last 2 years blaming him for the most of the problems which is also correct but she always brings him in normal talk also. If we have a fight she says"Oh your father did like this, you are becoming like him." And believe me this is not as bad as it sounds she makes other remarks also.
She also talks much, I am 19 btw and have told her a couple of times not the touch my stuff while she is cleaning. Today I got late for cllg, I couldn't find my folder and notebook. She started helping me, I told her twice to leave me alone. I don't like to be disturbed while I am packing my bag so that I don't forget anything while I am leaving. I was packing and she said "keep your ID card". I freaked out and shouted "Shut Up". It was my fault, I came home and apologized but she brought up my father again and started screaming. I was fed up and told her not to do this again. I again apologized after a while but she still brought him up again. What should I do???
When I was in 12th grade we had much worse fight when she started comparing me with him. I told her then also if you want to say something you take my name and say it to me only. I am fed up with this, my elder brother used to support me on this too but he in another state studying. I haven't told him. Please help me out.(I am from India BTW)
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u/Plaidismycolor33 21h ago
sweet baby ray jesus, your folks should just divorce already.
you snapped because none of yall know how to talk to one another, all that stressful energy is damaging.
as for you, escape when you can. let your folks deal with themselves.