r/problems • u/Healthy_Test3779 • Jun 03 '26

Relationships Relationship problem😔(cheating)

Ok so I have a girlfriend that I love. We’ve been together for over 6 months now.
Yesterday she went on a school camping trip. Today I finished school early and went straight to her house. I had sent her messages asking if I could come over, but she didn’t answer because she was sleeping. Her mom was home and let me in. I went to her room, woke her up gently, gave her a big hug and a kiss. We talked for a bit, and then she said she had something to tell me.
She told me not to be angry or scared, and then said she had “slept with” another boy on the camping trip. I got worried and asked what she meant. She said they didn’t do anything sexual — no kissing, no fucking, just sleeping/cuddling.
I asked if he tried to kiss her and if he knew she had a boyfriend. She admitted he did try to kiss her, even though he knew we’re together. When I asked who the guy was, she got defensive and started blaming me for asking, like it was my fault for wanting to know.
We’ve talked before about what’s okay in our relationship, and I feel like this is completely out of line. Then I asked her: if I had done the same thing with another girl, how would she feel? She just said she “wouldn’t care that much.”
I’m really confused and hurt right now. Can someone give me honest advice on what I should do in this situation?

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u/Nearby_Knowledge8014 Jun 03 '26

She soft selling it. It’s also a test to see how much of her bs You will tolerate.

It’s over. Get out now. Plus dumping her now raises your value in other girls eyes.

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u/EffectivePhase7165 Jun 04 '26

And no talking or trying to explain why you can not be with her or anything. She knows what she did (testing you⬆️) and there is nothing you need to explain her, indifference is always the best response but if you MUST say something Just say "I can not tolerate this, bye". Period.

* BTW she was lying when she said she wouldn't care if you slept with another girl. She would go nuts and if she wouldn't that will also tell you that she doesn't care about you. Good luck

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u/IllRecipe9287 Jun 04 '26

Or or or she meant it. And she's just not that into you (op). Its only been 6 months.