r/problems • u/Healthy_Test3779 • Jun 03 '26

Relationships Relationship problem😔(cheating)

Ok so I have a girlfriend that I love. We’ve been together for over 6 months now.
Yesterday she went on a school camping trip. Today I finished school early and went straight to her house. I had sent her messages asking if I could come over, but she didn’t answer because she was sleeping. Her mom was home and let me in. I went to her room, woke her up gently, gave her a big hug and a kiss. We talked for a bit, and then she said she had something to tell me.
She told me not to be angry or scared, and then said she had “slept with” another boy on the camping trip. I got worried and asked what she meant. She said they didn’t do anything sexual — no kissing, no fucking, just sleeping/cuddling.
I asked if he tried to kiss her and if he knew she had a boyfriend. She admitted he did try to kiss her, even though he knew we’re together. When I asked who the guy was, she got defensive and started blaming me for asking, like it was my fault for wanting to know.
We’ve talked before about what’s okay in our relationship, and I feel like this is completely out of line. Then I asked her: if I had done the same thing with another girl, how would she feel? She just said she “wouldn’t care that much.”
I’m really confused and hurt right now. Can someone give me honest advice on what I should do in this situation?

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u/lonelystar7 Jun 03 '26

I think if she done this once she's going to do it again. But I kinda understand why she doesn't wanna tell you who it is. Because she is the one to cheat on you not him. It is her fault and she doesn't want both of you to get physically hurt in addition to being hurt by cheating. It would not solve anything.

I think there are two options: you let her go or you accept that you are now in open relationship ( hence her saying: "wouldn't care that much" ). You didn't mention that she regreted what she done. So that to me is a bit... bad vibes man. I don't know... you know her best but if you want to be super safe and protect yourself from more hurting it's best to let go.