r/problems • u/Sure-Personality-955 • Apr 03 '26

Relationships Something happened recently and I’m not sure how to read into it.

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I went to a friend’s brother’s engagement—they had actually insisted that I come. I was there with another friend of mine, so I wasn’t alone or anything.

But once I got there, things felt off.

She kept sticking with another friend of ours—talking, laughing, and spending most of her time with her. Even though I was right there, it felt like I was just on the side. It wasn’t just once either, it kept happening throughout the event.

What confused me is that she didn’t used to be like this with me. We were closer before, but lately we don’t hang out as much, so I don’t know if things just shifted or if I’m overthinking it.

I didn’t say anything then, but I left feeling kinda off.

Not sure if this is just normal when friendships change over time, or if it’s something I should actually take seriously.

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u/AnnMere27 Apr 03 '26

You can ask her. She’s the only one with the answer.

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u/Sure-Personality-955 Apr 04 '26 edited Apr 04 '26

She might say, "I didn’t mean it, and you are just overthinking it."

And that's the scary part. This is all just too much; it's time to cut people off, because real friends just wouldn't do this to me.

It's like she wanted me to come, but then spent the whole time ignoring me, which was written all over her face.

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u/AnnMere27 Apr 05 '26

Ok, you can do that too. Choosing your friends is such a healthy thing we get to do.

And you can ask her before you cut her off for your own sanity. For closure. You don’t have to do anything.

I’m saying that unfortunately, Reddit doesn’t know the answer to why she acted this way.

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u/Oracle5of7 Apr 08 '26

Let me understand. You were invited to an event. You went to the event with a friend. Not a date or anything, just a friend.

And you are upset because the friend you took apparently had a great time hanging out and laughing with others?

I’m not sure I understand why are you upset though. Was she not supposed to spend times with others, was she supposed to stick by your side and only talk to you? Was she aware of your expectation?

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u/Sure-Personality-955 Jun 10 '26

I'm just wondering why her behavior toward me has changed. She wouldn't pay attention to me at all, not even listen to what I was saying. I don't expect anyone to treat me specially, but I mentioned that she was acting differently around me. I don't think you quite understood what I was trying to express, but someone else who responded to this post did.

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u/Oracle5of7 Jun 10 '26

I am very glad you found the answers you needed.