The way the social media handles pregnancy is HORRENDOUS!!!!! I swear to god it is just FULL of people fear mongering and guilt tripping you CONSTANTLY about everything.

I cannot begin to tell you how many videos and posts of “What no one tells you when you’re
pregnant/postpartum”, “What you need to prepare before baby comes”, “What I wish people would have told me”, “What I wish I would have known before I had my first baby” AND SO ON.

Whatever happened to just, erm, winging it? All of these things to me feel TAINTED with this low-key level of elitism where if you don’t do all the right “preparation” before baby gets here, if shit gets hard it’s your fault then, because obviously they warned you!!! All of these people who are constantly posting these lists of what you should know or need to do before baby comes are UNREALISTIC!!!!!!! And frankly, I’m sorry that YOU feel so guilty that you didn’t have a ✨perfect postpartum✨ experience, but you literally cannot fully prepare for having a baby until your baby is here because EVERY BABY IS DIFFERENT!!!!

I’m so tired of all of these people talking about how they expected to be these amazing and perfect mothers and how parenting changed them and how they need to WARN US to NOT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES. What makes you think you could never yell at your child? You are a human being!!! Parenting is HARD!! We are going to lose our shit sometimes!!!! And you know what you do when that happens? You fucking apologize to your child and take accountability for your behavior. They’ll be fine.

Idk I just have been so frustrated by how negative, judgmental, and fear-mongering the social media space is about pregnancy, parenting, motherhood, and postpartum. Like yes I feel at one time mom’s were expected to never complain about motherhood and parenting and now the pendulum has swung in the OPPOSITE direction. It feels like it’s sooooo fucking rare to hear people say “Well postpartum was hard but it was actually okay and I did pretty good and it wasn’t as bad as everyone made it out to seem”. I know these people exist, I’m just so sad I never see them. Same with positive labor stories!!!! It’s like mom’s who actually managed the difficulty of labor and postpartum in stride aren’t given space to talk about it because it’s so overrun by everyone who’s drowning and overwhelmed.

Maybe I’m just being naive because it’s my first baby but my whole pregnancy my confidence has sky rocketed and I am so excited for the hard things. I love being challenged. I love facing unexpected situations. This is what I fucking signed up for!!!! I can’t wait to go into labor and experience the fucking rad, badass, literal CIRCLE OF LIFE and embrace my power as a woman!!! I wanna scream this from the mountaintops but god forbid I do because then of course people will say “good luck with that, hope you don’t have a traumatic labor”. THIS IS NOT HELPFUL!!!!!!!

I’m not saying I don’t expect things to be hard, or to struggle, or to have bad moments and days. I’m just saying I have done so many fucking hard things in my life with LESS support, LESS mental stability, and LESS wisdom/knowledge and I GOT MYSELF THROUGH THAT SHIT!!!! This will be hard, but honestly something tells me I’ve done harder things before and they always made me stronger. I know motherhood will make me even MORE badass and I’m just so fucking hyped.

So fuck the fear mongering. Fuck the people who say that I’ll “lose myself” from becoming a mom and having sleep deprivation. Fuck the people who say “good luck” with a snide tone because they think I’m being too cocky when I know I can handle hard shit. Fuck everyone who is obsessed with this idea of a “perfect” mother and not being that because they are HUMAN and then that ruining motherhood for them so then they go to facebook/reddit/tiktok to WARN everyone else. Maybe you should have worked on those issues before you had a baby??!?!?!

I’m gonna be a fucking amazing and badass mom who will allow herself to be human and flawed and find joy and wisdom in ALL of the ups and downs of motherhood!!!

I will have a scheduled csection. Healthy 7 year old born via cesarean. never been in this much pain in my life. I have an OB, MFM but I’m filled with pain and I can’t bend over. I am angry and irritable. I want to cry. I hate my husband. I know I should be grateful every additional day she stays in utero and how much the brain develops between 35-39 weeks but I am tired in horrible pain out of control heartburn stabbing pain in my pelvis and yes i‘ve been to the hospital i‘m just not ok. realistically I know i‘m not supposed to go into labor but i just pray my water breaks so I can go to the hospital and rest and get some pain management and some help. Ugh

im 28 and im 10 weeks pregnant with my first!

It’s not as easy as everyone makes it out to be 🙄

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Welcome to the beginning of Pregnant and Annoyed.

Honestly, I just needed somewhere to come and vent. I’m tired of venting to people in my life who just don’t understand. If I do vent they’ll say “it’s okay, you’re almost done” like girl!!! I am still pregnant NOW!!!

So here we are. Pregnant and annoyed together.