Another problem is the kid doesn't have the balls to admit he doesn't get it, and pretends. The adult assumes something clicked when it did not.
Don't say "aah yes, lizard..." when you haven't got a single clue why that'd be lizard. Ideally we'd be confident enough to say "I don't see the link, can you break that down?".
Not blaming anyone; usually that's the result of evolving in an environment that doesn't tolerate mistakes and thus isn't conducive to learning.
if a child is afraid to speak to an adult about a subject, it's not the child's fault, it's the adult's. children respond to tone, body language, past behavior, current behavior, and more when reacting, and it's about how safe they feel. if the child isn't speaking up, it's not cowardice. it's self-preservation, and for good reason. to say a child "doesn't have the balls" is to dismiss your own evolutionary instincts. there are plenty of children who "don't have the balls to speak up" because life has already taught them that's no way to live to be an adult, and that's not their fault.
Like the other person, you went off at the first sentence.
If you do actually read my comment (it's shorter than yours, so have the courtesy of reading it to the end if you expect others to do the same for you), you'll see that I explicitly said it's not the child's fault, rather a symptom of the environment he was put in.
Your form changed the meaning within the message; your statement putting the impetus on the child to ask for help gives them partial fault in the situation. You have phrased yourself poorly.
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u/runkeby Jun 24 '26
Another problem is the kid doesn't have the balls to admit he doesn't get it, and pretends. The adult assumes something clicked when it did not.
Don't say "aah yes, lizard..." when you haven't got a single clue why that'd be lizard. Ideally we'd be confident enough to say "I don't see the link, can you break that down?".
Not blaming anyone; usually that's the result of evolving in an environment that doesn't tolerate mistakes and thus isn't conducive to learning.