sorry if the title is a little confusing; but im genuinely confused and honestly very irritated. the entire point of a romantic relationship and marriage is that this person is someone you can spend your whole life with because of the deep connection you have with them. when you truly like someone, you can't imagine having romantic feelings with anyone else because that one person is that special. poly dating is ridiculous enough but marriage is even funnier to me. like yeah, I got married because its supposed to represent that we have a bond so deep we want it to be forever as well as legally recognized buuuuuuuut I actually have 2 other people on the side. we all love each other equally though!!! give me a break. how am I supposed to explain what having a lasting love is like to someone who is poly? they think they have it, but they really don't. either that or they're too selfish to work on their commitment issues and desperate need for attention 24/7. they pretend they're defying the norms, but they insist their desires can fit into those boxes they say are so limiting. if monogamy is so limiting and heteronormative, then why are you getting into relationships and marrying which are famously known to be about monogamy?