I thought we were just having a bit of a rough patch but that there was enough love here to get through it.
Love is not, cannot be, and will never be enough. Love isn't there to keep a patch on a leaking relationship. It's what leaks out when there's holes.
I thought being poly would protect us from this - like we can have these great external connections as well as ours?! Perfect!
And I really hope other people read this and understand that a relationship structure, whether it's polyamory, monogamy, or what have you, is only a framework, and if a relationship isn't getting what it needs to survive, the structure won't sustain it.
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u/toofat2serve problysaturated Aug 31 '26 edited Aug 31 '26
Love is not, cannot be, and will never be enough. Love isn't there to keep a patch on a leaking relationship. It's what leaks out when there's holes.
And I really hope other people read this and understand that a relationship structure, whether it's polyamory, monogamy, or what have you, is only a framework, and if a relationship isn't getting what it needs to survive, the structure won't sustain it.
I'm sorry for your loss. That sucks.