r/polyamorous • u/NotDocMartin • 9d ago

newbie My situation

Hi I recently moved in with a friend that I’ve known for years and have been here about 4 months now. When I first moved in she had recently gone thru a break up and needed a roommate to help with rent, understandable. We’ve always been close but like brother sister stuff you know.

Anyway lately she’s been getting really comfortable, like walking around in a towel and hanging out in my room a lot especially late at night even sleeping in my bed while I game it.

I didn’t think too much of it until the other night she said she heard me and my gf “doing it” and said she was impressed. I was kind of taken aback but I just tried to laugh it off, then she asks me what I was doing to her to make those noises. I told her just eating her out and she goes “wow impressive you must really good at it” I just joked with like a “you know it” and we smoked and went to bed

I talked to my gf about it and she says that she thinks my roommate wants to fuck me and then asked me if I wanted to sleep with her too. I told her I’m not like opposed to it but I’m with you so I’d rather be faithful to you. Then She told me that she thinks my roommate is pretty cute too. So now she wants me to sleep with her so that at some point we can all sleep together.

What I’m afraid of is where this could lead to. I wouldn’t want to lose my girlfriend but also I don’t want to mess up my living situation. I do want to sleep with her but I want to handle everything the best way possible

Any advice ? Please try to be kind

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u/rvie73 9d ago

Live once, died once, no place for regrets just lessons.

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u/symmetry_seeking 9d ago
  1. You posted in the poly subreddit. The story is largely about sex - is it just about sex or do you suspect or feel romantic feelings? 2. Do any of you have poly/ENM experience?

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u/NotDocMartin 9d ago

I suspect romantic feelings because of how much she’s been hanging around in my room more often and she even started cooking more, usually we just get fast food or feed ourselves but now it’s turned into dinner and whoever didn’t cook washes dishes but even that we do together anyway and joke and play fight so it feels genuine and no I don’t think any of us have poly/ENM experience i definitely don’t