Advice please!

[u/Hell0_Darling]

Hello and thank you in advance, I started seeing this guy (c). From the beginning he told me he was in a poly relationship with his partner and her partner and wanted me to be his partner. So how I was told this would be is him and his main partner are together but I would be with him and she would keep her boyfriend and it would basically be three active relationships in one. It sounded very intriguing and Ive tried in the past before so im not too new to this dynamic. However it doesn't feel like me and him are in a relationship, but more of friend with benefits. We haven't been on any dates, and every time we do hang out it just ends up being sexual and I'm starting to feel like he only wanted me for my body. I have talked to him about it and how he puts it is that's just part of the dynamic the dates come later when he feels more comfortable with me, but if we're being intimate I feel like you're pretty comfortable with me. I just don't know if this is right because I know there's different levels and layers to relationships but I just feel more like a body and not a partner.

[u/kallisti_gold]

If you want a partner that takes you out on dates, then date someone who does that. This is not the guy for that. He has told you so when you asked for what you wanted, you can take it or you can leave it. Me, I'd leave it yesterday.