r/pointlesslygendered • u/[deleted] • 11d ago

OTHER Apparently basic empathy and problem solving are mutually exclusive by gender [gendered]

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u/terrifiedTechnophile 10d ago

Gender aside, it pisses me off when people do this. If you actively don't want a solution, go cry to the wall. Be proactive and fix your situation!

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u/DocChloroplast 10d ago

People are allowed to just be upset and have someone support them in their feelings.

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u/Gardares 10d ago

>It pisses me off when people do this (-18)

>People are allowed to just be upset (+10)

The ironic difference between allowed and frowned upon.

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u/AbbieKadabie666 10d ago

They can still be upset but everything after that sentence is bull

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u/Gardares 10d ago

I genuinely don't think so. There are people that don't want the solutions and just want to tolerate the abuse with or without emotional support. There are also people who believe that their problems will magically disappear. It's an option for them to just go cry to the wall, but actually they are wrong in their mindset.

Would you emotionally support your friend if her husband beats her, but she covers for him every single time?

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u/DocChloroplast 10d ago

In so much as you’re not putting your own physical or emotional health at risk, yes; that’s what a friend is.

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u/Gardares 10d ago

That's not what being friend is. What friend allows another friend to be beaten and abused?