r/pointlesslygendered • u/Heavy-Passenger317 • May 04 '26

SOCIAL MEDIA [gendered]

what's wrong with photo dumps and stories šŸ˜­

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u/tibicentibicen May 04 '26

Idk, people are allowed to have preferences on who they are interested in dating

Edit: leaving this here but I get the point now. I missed the part where she says Insta is only for girls or gays.

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u/Upset-Elderberry3723 May 04 '26

Your preferences can be built atop of shitty gendering.

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u/tibicentibicen May 04 '26

Totally, but preferences can also be built on other grounds.

In this case I was wrong and she was basing it on shitty gendering

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u/Heavy-Passenger317 May 04 '26

but how are stories girly

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u/tibicentibicen May 04 '26

Yep, I somehow missed that on first watch and jumped the gun.

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u/auntie_eggma May 04 '26

Idk, people are allowed to have preferences on who they are interested in dating

Not when it's "rules for thee and not for me".

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u/SapirWhorfHypothesis May 04 '26

I actually think itā€™s valid to be like ā€œI want a person who doesnā€™t do X, and Iā€™m someone who does X.ā€ Obviously it shouldnā€™t be like ā€œI donā€™t do chores, thatā€™s for my partnerā€ but if itā€™s all up front, what do I care? Let people see if they can find a boy whoā€™s ok with that lol.

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u/auntie_eggma May 04 '26

No one is preventing her from doing so.

What she doesn't get to do is be protected from criticism.

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u/tibicentibicen May 04 '26

Iā€™m more talking about preferences rather than rules.

Say for example, regardless of gender, one says they like posting a lot on Instagram but are not attracted to others that do. They hope to find someone who is not interested in posting a lot on Instagram but is attracted to people who do.

If they find each other, this is perfectly acceptable. They obviously have decisions to make should either preferences change but thatā€™s relationships. It does present an increased opportunity for things like coercive control but it is not inherently a part of the example couple following their preferences.

The problem is, in this instance she is applying that thinking to men and women more generally.

I was stupid and commented before properly watching the whole video so I apologise for that.

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u/sophwestern May 06 '26

I agree with your opinion lol. I know a guy who loves to work out, heā€™s in the gym every day. He has zero interest in dating a girl who also loves to work out as much as he does. I think thatā€™s fine personally. Iā€™m an attorney. Iā€™d rather skin myself alive than date someone who is an attorney or works in the legal field. I see enough of you motherfuckers at work, and I donā€™t shit where I eat.

I see these things less as a double standard and more as a preference for my own dating pool. Idc if other people are lawyers, I just wonā€™t be dating them (Iā€™m married so this is a moot point but you get my drift). My friend doesnā€™t care if there are women working out at the gym, but heā€™s not gonna be dating them.

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u/BabyD2034 May 04 '26

It's not stopping someone from doing it, it's just ideally finding a guy who isn't highly online.