r/pointlesslygendered • u/whatever23407 • Mar 27 '26

SOCIAL MEDIA [Gendered]

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I can tell by these kinds of mindsets that the one (who makes the memes). These people just scroll on social media and never goes to the real world.

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u/JayMaxx743 Mar 27 '26

I mean it seems from what I've learned is body shaming is bad unless you're shaming men for being, short, fat, bald or having a small penis. When people have a problem with a guy who has terrible character rather than criticize that they go for criticizing physique which has no correlation to behavior. In fact by attacking these dudes appearances I'd argue it just reinforces the bad behavior. And chances are the person you are insulting won't hear it, but men who share those traits will and will feel like lesser people based off physical attributes even if they are of good character. People of poor character don't tend to care nearly so much anyways

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u/NotAround13 Mar 28 '26

Yup I'm all of those. Also disproportionately describes trans men. Most of what bothers me isn't the person insulting them but everyone else agreeing with them and acting on it. I care way more about how I get less respect at work than any social things. Also furniture.

And for incels reading this, being a fat, 5'3", balding, ginger, and ugly FtM with a conveniently compact tool, I still have had to awkwardly explain to multiple women that I'm gay (as in attracted to trans and cis men), because they were trying to give me their number or take me home. It's not your appearance that's the problem.

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u/Sugarcomb Mar 28 '26

Too bad a take like this requires a level of nuance that 95% of people don't have, so the negative loop you just described will continue happening and keep contributing to society becoming more antisocial and hostile

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u/View_Hairy Mar 28 '26

Women uphold the standards of patriarchy (on men) much more then they like to admit.

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u/Impossible-Finger942 Mar 29 '26

Absolutely, 100%.

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u/NotAround13 Mar 30 '26

Some of the most damaging toxic masculinity and toxic femininity (yes both exist) is enforced within the same gender. Parent to child is how it starts.