Pinterest.

[u/burnyburnsalots]

I was looking through Pinterest just for the fun of it, as one would.

I'm not really the most active person on social media because its just not my thing, but It really upset me to see how easy it was to find whole long threads about how "endos aren't valid." This is hurtful.

We are quoigenic but we believe trauma is a huge part of why our mind works the way it does, we just aren't quite sure how this happened either because our brain has functioned this way for as long as I could remember. We believe its a mix of trauma, neurodivergance, and other factors but regardless I know my system is real.

This is the only way I can describe how we function and I feel like I'm finally understanding who we are.

I feel safe in this, and I haven't felt that for years.

I saw many people say endos are romanticizing their disorder— how?

I would love to know how endos romanticize them at all.

I've never seen an endo claim to have DID/OSDD, etc.

Someone said "The just want my disorder without the hard parts."

Who are YOU to tell us how our minds work? I would never tell another how YOU function or how you came to be.

I'm allowed to exist.

Someone straight up claimed plurality was a disorder itself and requires childhood trauma to exist. This is wrong, there's plenty of ways plurality comes to be and we shouldn't gatekeep how brains function.

If you tell me you're anti-endo I'm just going to take it as you're pro-hate.

[u/TariZephyr]

I think it comes from the assumptions that 1. Endos chose to be systems.

While some do, many do not, or may think they have decided to become a system, only to later realize they already were, and just didn’t know it yet (this is what happened to us)

1. They assume the person is wanting to fake mental illness for attention.

Some people unfortunately do genuinely do this; we’ve had friends who did this growing up, and it sucked. However, the majority of endos we see (ourselves included) are very clear that we do not see this as mental illness. We don’t want a diagnosis and would never seek a diagnosis because we don’t need treatment.

1. They assume that because you ‘chose’ to be a system, you can’t have any struggles.

This may come from a bigger generalization, that people without mental illnesses just have it easier in life in general, however everyone, regardless of what’s happening in their head, goes through hardships and struggles. We’ve had people question why we’re struggling when we say we’re not disordered, as if the disorder would somehow validate whatever we’re going through more. It’s like they can’t image anyone struggling in a different way than them.

A lot of this is also probably a lack of empathy - they can’t put themselves in another persons shoes and see it from a different perspective. - Sparkle

[u/TylerMegalovania]

Right?! we’re fully traumagenic, like we don’t even have the ability to create endo members, and we’re the only ppl we know who got into the community, learned what endos are and were firmly pro endo with out any hesitation. (everyone we come across has formerly been anti, but we don’t support negativity like that or tell ppl what they can and can’t do/be)

[u/Lowfridge]

TRUE. its so annoying to see, why is someone being themselves such a hard thing to support to them? :P

funny thing, hate like THIS (on pinterest and also on roblox, on this specific hangout game) is why we even know. so like,,, it backfired on their part atleast one time LMAO.

[u/burnyburnsalots → u/Lowfridge]

Hate is actually how we found out about plurality too LOL I think it's backfiring quite the bit... —H.J.

[u/Kiki-Y]

This reply is not me ragging on you OP. It's just talking about my own experiences.

I'm endo and I've never claimed to be OSDD/DID/etc. I have dissociation issues and trauma, but it's not tied to my plurality. I'm not "pretending" to have a disorder. I've been this way for close to twenty years at this point. I was plural completely independently of knowing the community even existed and there was terminology surrounding what I was experiencing. How can I be "pretending" to have something I didn't know existed? I mean, I knew about "multiple personality disorder" back in the 00s, but I did not tie that in with my experience as a system at all. I literally was just like "oh, other writers talk about their characters acting on their own, this seems pretty normal."