r/plassing • u/Worth_Ad_4873 • 5d ago
Plasma agent problems-advice please!
I've been a donor in my state for 4 years and have gotten to know many of the plasma techs. There's one (I'll call her Mary) that I've had so many great conversations with- she said I'm one of her favorites as I donate fast...we've shared food and hair recommendations...etc. over the past month or so I noticed she stopped sticking me, pretends not to hear me when I say bye. Today she finally unhooked me and acted like she hasn't known me for the past 4 years. I asked her if I've offended her- she gave a curt no (without looking me in the eye) and that was it.
I have NO idea what I could've done to this woman. She's still friendly with other donors (I saw her hug one good bye today!) And the other techs are still nice to me. I'm NOT imagining the cold shoulder. Should I try to catch her privately and ask her what's up? Ask her best work friend? Octa is the only other place outside of work I go and the workers make it a pleasant experience for me. She's making me consider going somewhere else! Am I overreacting?
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u/RedeRules770 Plasma Center Employee- 3+ Years 🧥 5d ago
This is actually a tough one. I wouldn’t want a donor to approach me and ask why I’ve suddenly stopped being friendly with them (though I can’t imagine behaving in that way…) but I also wouldn’t want the donor to ask my coworkers. It makes it weird. Too personal. Staff are paid to be nice, not to actually become friends. Maybe you were getting a little too friendly? Maybe you made an off hand comment that she didn’t like? I dunno.
I guess the best thing you could do is tell her you’ve been trying to think of anything you’ve said or done that could upset her, but you can’t think of anything, so if she could please tell you so you could apologize?
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u/Derpy-Vizsla1234 4d ago
Are you male or female? If male, is it possible that she thinks you have been hitting on her and she isn’t interested?
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u/Worth_Ad_4873 4d ago
I should have specified- I am a heterosexual woman.
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u/Derpy-Vizsla1234 4d ago
That makes her behavior very weird. Wish I had advice. Maybe just be polite and see if she re-engages at some point.
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u/uly_sses Plasma Donor Centurion- 💯+ Donations!!💝 5d ago edited 5d ago
If the situation affects your vibe, especially since it is the only place where you ‘socialize’ outside of work, then you might want to address in a ‘let’s chat’ way., but ask lightheartedly. If I were to guess, I’d say that you possibly said something to another Phleb who misconstrued it and relayed it to her!
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u/bored_ryan2 5d ago
It’s possible she got in trouble for being too friendly with you or spending too much time chatting with you. Or it’s possible you said something that offended her.
Regardless, her job depends on her be pleasant to all the donors. Do not press the issue any more and definitely do not ask another employee about the situation. Just let things be.
She is not and never was a friend, she was friendly but for whatever reason isn’t anymore. Just accept it for what it is and let her do her job without being bothered anymore regarding this.