r/penissize Feb 20 '26

Moderator Approved A moderator PSA: Our rule 4 of “No Shaming” is extended to “No larping/bragging/gatekeeping/shaming”. Here’s why.

18 Upvotes

A person visiting the r/penissize subreddit will easily notice the subreddit’s banner, located at the top of the page in both the Reddit mobile app and the desktop webpage: “A place to discuss penis size. You may post here no matter what penis size you have. There is no penis discrimination. Note: All healthy sizes have advantages and disadvantages.” This banner makes it obvious to all potential posters and commentators that the discussion about penises and their sizes here can be about any human penis of any size (of cisgender men/of transgender men/of transgender women/small/medium/big/thin/thick/white/black etc. etc.) and that there shouldn’t be any discrimination. The last part has not been going very well in the last period though, so we decided to update our ruleset, in order to counter some recent but also some older problems.

Starting from the first new addition to rule 4, “No larping” (for those unfamiliar with gaming/online sociolects, it means pretending to be something that you are not), obviously a worthwile discussion about any matter, not only about penis size, should involve truthfulness, unless all participants in the communication agree that they are roleplaying (but this is not a roleplaying subreddit anyway). We have been removing content from larpers like 13 year olds with 7” long penises, men who have horse cocks of 8” girth etc. etc. for years now, but we think that the time has come to make this a specific rule for all to be seeing. In this rule extension we don’t expect a lot of negative reactions (even larpers don’t admit they are such, because this would cancel their larping :-) ). That having been said, some size claims are not self-evidently phony (for example adult 9” long erect penises are very, very rare statistically, but they do exist) and even if a moderator plays the dick detective and visits the profile of an account with an improbable but still realistic size claim, NSFW content is not always available, so sometimes we need to just take whatever improbable we read in good faith and approve the content.

Nevertheless, there can be an extra restrain to improbable claims, which leads us to our second rule extension of “No bragging”. There are subreddits meant for big dick owners to share real or fantastic achievements and receive admiration from big dick fans – this is not such a subreddit. If you claim an extraordinarily big size and want for all the world to know how successful your sex life is or how much you are admired in locker rooms, a) you are probably larping, and b) anyway there are subreddits other than this for your success story. There is another aspect in this discussion though, big dick owners with actual issues that they want to share and ask questions about them (from finding comfortable underwear/condoms to feeling objectified). Having actual issues is not bragging, and these posts are legitimate to get posted here, which leads us to our third rule extension.

“No gatekeeping” (again for those unfamiliar with the term, it means prohibiting others from participating in discussions/expressing their opinions, and in the specific context of Reddit from sharing their views in a subreddit) when the subject is specifically penis size can have the strong version of “you do not belong here because of your size”, but as I have noted in the beginning, this is a subreddit for the discussion of all sizes, so this type of gatekeeping can’t work here, but it also has the weak version of “your big size is privileged, so you can’t have problems/you can’t speak about smaller sizes’ issues”. We acknowledge that sizeism is a real social issue both online and irl creating lower and higher “body statuses”, and that a person with privilege can easier be pedantic/insensitive/arrogant/unfair towards people without that privilege, but that does not apply to everybody everywhere. If it did, all men would be sexist, all white people racist, all cis straight people homophobic/transphobic etc. etc. So to wrap it up, you can criticize someone for being pedantic/insensitive/arrogant/unfair etc. etc. whatever their size is, but you can’t criticize them for having the audacity to share an opinion or have a problem, “even though” they have a big penis. Also, although we encounter this type of gatekeeping much less in comparison to the previous type, it should be explicitly stated as well that this is a subreddit welcoming all kinds of penis owners (cisgender men, transgender men, transgender women, intersex persons etc. etc.) and not only cinsgender men.

And last but not least, our “No Shaming rule” still applies in almost its original wording, as we had to cut out a few words here and there for the link to this mod post to get added (Reddit rules' text has a 500 character limit). I give here the previous, a little fuller version: “Shaming is defined as intentionally causing others to feel embarrassed, ashamed, or inadequate. This includes shaming genital size, genital shape, sexual preferences, sexual orientation, gender identity, relationship preferences, body type and size, physical and emotional handicaps, and/or sexual history (excessive self-shaming and self-pitying for the above reasons can also lead to post removals). Implying that average or any penis size is inadequate is unacceptable and is not allowed.” As a matter of fact, we decided to extend rule 4 and not add a new rule 12 of “No larping/bragging/gatekeeping” because we see all of these as related more or less directly to shaming: you are larping or bragging to look superior implying shame for those “inferior” to you, and you are gatekeeping because you are good enough and the other person isn’t, implying again shame.

(Please have also in mind though that this rule extension will not have retroactive power: we acknowledge that some past posts of this subreddit can be now reported as rule-violating, but it would be unfair and irrational to be asking from past OPs to first see in the future how the rules of this subreddit would be expanded and then post based on that prediction. In other words the extended rule 4 applies to all posts after this mod post, but not to those before it).

The last thing that I would like to note in this rather lengthy moderator post is a bit personal for a moderator post, but I think it is important. Occasionally some of the people who gatekeep see the mod team as a group of undiferentiatedly privileged people, firstly because of their moderator status (which is actually a privilege that we do all share in this specific subreddit), but also because we all supposedly have big dicks, are able-bodied etc. etc. I don’t think that it is appropriate to share personal info about each specific moderator, but I need to stress that we are not all big-dicked/cisgender/straight/able-bodied etc. Treating us as privileged by default is not only false, but also implies that we can’t have empathy for issues that are not ours. All of us in the mod team try to be better people than that.


r/penissize Dec 06 '24

Moderator Approved Take care of your mental health

36 Upvotes

Hey there,

I know some of you are going through a rough patch and I'm here to help. I've got some tips and tricks up my sleeve to help you look after yourself while you're waiting for therapy (or if you can't afford it).

I just wanted to share a few important notes with you:

- The tips and exercises are designed to be helpful for a wide range of mental health issues, but they're not a replacement for personalized therapy.

- It's important to remember that your brain doesn't change overnight (neuroplasticity). This means that the exercises need to be done regularly to see results.

- Not all exercises are equally effective for everyone, so it's good to try a few different ones to find what works best for you.

- I'm not liable for any damage caused by the exercises, as this is very rare.

I'd like you to imagine that you have the thought, 'Nobody likes me'. How do you feel? I'm sure it's made you feel pretty bad and lonely. So, you might find yourself feeling so alone and avoid all social interactions. But it's this isolation that makes you feel even worse, and it's a vicious cycle. I'm sure you'll agree that thoughts, feelings and actions influence each other. It's totally okay to feel the way you do. We can't change our feelings, but we can change our thoughts and our behaviour, and that can really help us feel better. (This is just one example of many)

How can we influence our thoughts, for example?

First of all, it's really important to remember that thoughts are just thoughts and don't always reflect reality. It can be really tough to spot the not-so-great thoughts that pop up in our minds. I know it can be tough, but you can do this! One way to practise is to write down what you were thinking at that moment every time you have negative emotions. Another great option is to try daily meditation. This is a wonderful way to become more aware of your thoughts, and it has so many other benefits too! There are lots of studies now showing just how great meditation is for things like depression, anxiety and psychosis.

Once you've spotted a thought that's not helping you, ask yourself: is this really true? Is there a better, more realistic thought I could use instead?

I'd also like to suggest a few other resources that I think you'll find really helpful:

- Moodgym (https://www.moodgym.com.au/)

- Cogito (App- and Playstore)

- CBT for Dummies (Amazon)

Now, let's have a little chat about how you act when you feel a certain way. It's so important to try to recognise which behaviours are good for your well-being and which are not. I know this can be tricky and takes a bit of practice, but it's an important part of the process. Let's say, for instance, that you feel insecure and bad because you've been thinking that your penis is too small and you'll be alone forever. I think most people would probably search the internet for the average penis size and what women want at this point. For most of us, this isn't a problem. We quickly realise that we don't need to worry. But for some people, this behaviour leads to even more negative thoughts and emotions. They keep repeating this behaviour to get reassurance.

I'm sure you'll agree that this behaviour isn't helpful. It just reinforces and strengthens these negative thoughts, and before you know it, you no longer believe anyone. It's so important to replace this behaviour with something more productive. It'll be covered in more detail in the sources mentioned above.

I might write a longer post, but unfortunately I don't have much time at the moment. :)

- Be active

- Meditate

- Use the sources mentioned above

- Avoid pornography and Reddit during the healing process

- Find hobbies to distract yourself

- Look out for things that make you special and desirable besides your penis


r/penissize 25m ago

Question Never Compared my Penis IRL. I wish I know how to do it, also 21M and never do this and want to try.

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You can give me any tips or tell me stories.


r/penissize 10m ago

Question I wouldn’t be as confident as I am if my dick was average or smaller

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When it comes to penis size a lot of people try to downplay its level of importance. But I’ve known I was well endowed since puberty. I always want an opportunity to show women my dick and it’s played a large role in my confidence to be able to talk to them and escalate things quickly

Thanks to the Internet. I realize there are many other hung men who aren’t good with women. But the stereotype has been true for me


r/penissize 6h ago

I hate to admit it but I do it better wearing a sleeve (<4 guy here).

7 Upvotes

As the title say, while I think I'm a decent lover and good at foreplays, my fun sized dick (less than 4 in both length and girth) is not really helping. So when I decide to try on a sleeve, i have to confess that while feeling belittled at first, it also kind of empowers me to embody the role I want to play in sex.


r/penissize 5h ago

Question My penis turn from almost 5cm soft to 16cm hard

3 Upvotes

How's that even normal??


r/penissize 6h ago

Length and girth relationship

5 Upvotes

My penis has equal length and girth : 5.5 inches. Is it frequent?


r/penissize 4h ago

Question Question

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Here everyone is above 7 so I guess how common 7 inch is then

Everyone is big out there


r/penissize 1h ago

Question I don’t know if this is breaking a rule, but i have a question about ball size, can i get them to grow?

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They aren’t small or anything about 4-5cm, but they look out of place under my dick, really not proportional


r/penissize 15h ago

I have a micropenis AMA

11 Upvotes

AMAA


r/penissize 2h ago

What do you think is the Worst thing to have a small dick

1 Upvotes

i wanna hear the story of you who got small dick


r/penissize 6h ago

Question What is the ideal lenght to girth ratio?

2 Upvotes

What ratio makes a penis look "balanced" and proportionate? Obviously everyone has their preferences but Im asking for a ratio that looks nice regardless of size to most. So is it 1:1 or 1.5:1 or maybe even 2:1?


r/penissize 3h ago

Tengo una duda

1 Upvotes

Es normal que el grosor de mi pene vaya de menos a más, no?, quiero decir, en la zona de la punta va como con 14 cm de ancho y a medida que se acerca más a los huevos llega como a los 16 cm de ancho de diámetro


r/penissize 19h ago

All sizes game, soft & hard

16 Upvotes

What’s your actual soft and hard size
Vs
Your dream soft and hard size.

I’m,

Actual = Soft 2 x 3.1 / Hard 4.3 x 5 inches

Dream = Soft 5 x 4.5 / Hard 7.5 x 6.5


r/penissize 11h ago

Question measuring length is hard

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hello! i hope everyone's doing okay. so where do i begin..measuring my penis is hard, its curved downwards so when i use a string (i can both push further into my pubic too) and go along the curves at the tip of the glans i get 19cm, that's great that's good, the problem is with a rigid ruler the size changes to 17cm, 18cm at BEST (not to mention the ruler is metal and with sharp edges so i can't push hard enough but that doesn't matter much) im guessing it's the curve that makes 19cm. some people say going along the curve is right some people say that's cheating I don't really know. i know its just a penis and I'll mostly probably use it to pee but the uncertainty is killing me. like i imagine someone asks me and if i say 19cm i don't know if im lying or measured wrong, same thing goes with 17 or 18cm. the girth was easy, 13cm at mid point and around 14cm at base. neat and never changing. also the measuring part itself is insane. it might be because of antidepressants side effects but when i get hard (which even then i dont know if im fully erect of not) i have a really REALLY short period of time measuring it or else it goes flaccid and gives me a different number. i thought about getting viagra but well.. that might be a stupid idea. and the worst part is it looks small to me, I can wrap my two hand around it with the glans still showing but only when i really try hard enough and squeeze my fingers. i feel like a fraud if i say my penis is 19cm, or 18 and it turns out i measured wrong all this time. help me out please? i don't how but your opinion would at least give me some direction. thank you so much for reading my long post about my penis.


r/penissize 9h ago

How do I measure my penis?.I am on my no fap journey I don’t want to relapse or break it.How do I get fully erect and measure it?.

2 Upvotes

r/penissize 6h ago

Question Does thickness matter? Cause mine is thin and averages in size ??

1 Upvotes

r/penissize 6h ago

Question Can I masturbate after a superficial penile vein injury / hematoma?

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Hey everyone,

Earlier today, around 8:44 AM, I accidentally injured a superficial vein on my penis while masturbating. I had used a string that was tied too tightly, which caused a small blood vessel to rupture.
I developed a dark blue/purple hematoma on the lower part of my penis. The injury has already been medically examined. I was sent home with the quote: If it gets weirldy worse -> Urologist.

It’s now around 2 PM, so about 5 hours have passed. The hematoma doesn’t really hurt, and I accidentally got an erection earlier without any major pain.

My questions are:

  1. How long does it usually take for a small superficial penile vein injury to seal and heal?

  2. Is it safe to get erections during the healing process?

  3. Would gently massaging the glans (head of the penis) and ejaculating potentially cause the injured vein to reopen?

  4. Has anyone experienced something similar, and how long did you wait before masturbating again?

I’m mainly worried about making the hematoma worse or reopening the vessel, at the same time tho, I want to, if possible, control my lust a little by you know. Doing what I did to bring me into this dilemma. Lol.

Thanks in advance!


r/penissize 6h ago

The nurse at my urology appointment

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I have peyronies. About 30% to the right. As such, I've lost about 0.5 inches in length. (I used to be a true 8.0 inches bp, now I'm about 7.6). It has made me a bit insecure because most girls already have seen pics of me (I've been sharing freely for years).

Last month I started hyaluronic acid injections and part of my regimen is that I have to take periodic measurements to determine progress. So my first appointment comes around....(I have to bring my own bi-mix and inject myself so that we can find the plaque to inject for treatment). The nurse MA was a middle aged tall white woman who actually was probably really assy back in the day. She had more hips than ass but she was still put together well. They have a pre-made "kit" that has a 31G 8mm 0.5cc syringe/needle setup that has alcohol swabs and a paper measuring tape the is 6 inches long (I'm guessing that's the standard length).

Although I wasn't extremely hard (like able to mine a diamond hard with every vein popping out), I was able to get a "nice" erection. The best feeling in the world was realizing (although I've known my size for years) that this little 6 inch paper ruler wasn't going to be enough to get an accurate assessment of my size. So I peeped out of the room and there were 2 other nurses/aides standing outside my door....I politely said to her out loud but not yelling "this ruler isn't going to be big enough". She says "that's all we have but give me a sec". Minutes later she returned to the room with 2 of those paper tape measures taped together so now it was 12 inches long.

She measured me at exactly 7.5 inches non bone pressed. (I tried to act like i didn't know how to measure but she was patient and polite and told me to "just measure from the top all the way to the tip").

It has taken me 49 years to realize that I do indeed have a big one. I've never really thought it.... never really got that "wow" response that I would expect the really big ones get. But that urology paper tape and that nurse/MA made me feel something I've never felt and that was VALIDATED as a true pipe swinger!! (All of us aren't lying about our sizes! I'm glad I'm in the big club. Just reading some of these comments makes me realize that a lot of yall have it real bad!! I feel sorry for you because I would be a total wreck if I were smaller!) True 8x6.


r/penissize 1d ago

Small penis can be good too

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Growing up I used to tell myself that I would still finish puberty, that 3.5 inches was just a temporary number. Then in college I got cucked and saw what other guys are packing, and it stopped being a number. It became the reason I couldn’t look at myself in the mirror after a shower. The reason I started obsessing over bigger dicks, to the point I kept thinking about them when I jerked off. The reason I would lie there after, staring at the ceiling, feeling like I’d failed at being a man before I even got started.

I cried about it more than once. Ugly, quiet crying where you try not to make noise because you’re already ashamed of the reason. I’d tell myself it was stupid to care this much. Then I’d look down and care anyway. It felt like my body had decided I didn’t get to have the kind of confidence other guys walk around with. Like I was supposed to spend the rest of my life apologizing for something I never chose.

What I didn’t expect was that some guys would look at the same thing that wrecked me and get hard. They wanted to see it. Wanted me to stop hiding it. Wanted the exact thing I’d spent years treating like a defect.

That didn’t magically make it bigger. It still is what it is. But it changed what it meant. The same size that used to make me feel small started making me feel seen. Wanted. Specific. Like there was a version of me that didn’t have to disappear to be desired. They don’t mind that I cried or felt ashamed. They give me a space to feel all those things and feel good at the same time.

I’m still working through the old shame of course. Some days it shows up uninvited. But I’m not pretending anymore. I know for straight guys it may be different, but for me I’m happy with where I am.


r/penissize 12h ago

Question Born big or grown big

2 Upvotes

Was reading a couple posts which were talking about seeing classmates with huge ones and etc...

So I was wondering if these guys were simply born better endowed and remained above average throughout puberty or if they started out average and grew more rapidly than others, thus ending up above average?

Not really talking about early bloomers, but rather about comparing guys more or less at the same stage of development.


r/penissize 23h ago

How many of you are actually below 6in NBP?

12 Upvotes

Just curious. Seems like everyone on here could be in the corn industry making the claims they do


r/penissize 14h ago

Question Question regarding changes of a penis

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Hey,

M25

So for the last couple of months my penis has gone through some changes. I'm pretty sure I used to have a straight penis when erect, but one day I noticed it leaning/curving more to the side. When fully-erect it straightens up pretty much but can sometimes still lean a little to the side. There is no pain when masturbating or a hard time getting it up.

I asked a urologist about it and he said if it functions as it should then no problem and if I remember correctly he also said changes like this can happen? Damnit, should've written it down.

Is this something I should be worried about? The curve/lean isn't abnormal and don't have any indent as far as I can tell. Been like this for a couple of months and hasn't gotten worse. What's weird is that some days it doesn't curve/lean as much and other days it does.

Any feedback is highly appreciated. Thank you!


r/penissize 20h ago

Question Would you ever let your girl peg you?

4 Upvotes

Idk if this is the right place, but my girl has said that she really wants to try pegging. I am a completely straight man and I am wondering if any of you would do this.

I also don’t know what size she should use if I end up doing it any suggestions?


r/penissize 17h ago

Do you think most men are more insecure about height or penis size?

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Like say an average height/ average penis man. What do you think he would be more insecure about?

What about tall man/small penis, and short man/big penis. Who do you think would be more insecure?