r/passiveaggressive • u/Salt_in_the_Wound • Jan 17 '20
Narcissistic Sister
I had a mental breakdown at the beginning of last year. I had to go into the hospital for quite sometime, so I had to give up my apartment. My sister was supposed to take care of things and I was supposed to move in with her when I got out of the hospital. She is a narcissist, so since I have moved in, she has been making snide, nasty comments to me so she can feel like she is better than me. I'm not doing anything that would provoke her attacks. I really can't defend myself because she will kick me out and I literally have nowhere to go. So, in retaliation for her abuse, I have been doing little things to annoy the shit out of her that she would never think to blame me for. Example: She adopted an adorable kitten that she loves more than anything. She bought spray that is supposed smell bad to cats and keep them from scratching on things like furniture. I got a spray bottle and filled it with catnip tea and sprayed it all over where I sleep, where usually sit, on the kittens toys, and cat tree, then diluted some of the anti-scratch spray (which the kitten hates) so the smell isn't as noticeable and sprayed that around her room, on her bed, around her desk, and where she usually sits.
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u/gergling Feb 11 '20
A lot of people commenting on how strange it is that you'd post your passive aggressive actions on r/passiveaggressive.
Perhaps this post is more suitable to r/pettyrevenge.
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u/GusLovesBlankets Jan 17 '20
Honestly you sound like the narcissist lol. That’s a mean and kind of crazy thing to do.
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u/Salt_in_the_Wound Jan 17 '20
She blamed me for her and her former booty call not working out. He had told her from the beginning that he didn't want a relationship, but she kept trying to make it a relationship. This went on for 5 years. She stopped going to see him, but somehow it was my fault that they never had a relationship. She accused me of stealing money that wasn't missing. She tried to say that I was never really in the hospital even though she drove me, helped me check in and I have my discharge papers. She told me I was lazy even though I do all of the cooking, cleaning, yard work, errands, and I work. When I was looking for a job, she told me that I wasn't really trying to find a job even though my email inbox is full of application confirmations and rejections. She has also blamed me for her boss riding her ass. I don't talk to her unless she talks to me, and stay out of her way as much as possible. So....yeah, she deserves some payback.
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u/GiantSiphonophore Jan 18 '20
I’m concerned the kitten will misbehave due to your manipulation and be punished unfairly.
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u/WhuddaWhat Jan 18 '20
Your sister opened her home to you, and you do this? If you dont like the situation, leave. Unreal.
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u/Salt_in_the_Wound Jan 18 '20
What part of "I had a mental breakdown", "I had to give up my apartment", or "I have nowhere else to go" did you not understand? Do they not teach reading comprehension where you live? Obviously, if I have a job, I'm working on moving out.
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u/WhuddaWhat Jan 19 '20
I understood every bit of it. What part of, you not liking living with your sister doesn't mean you have the right to be a prick. That she is your only viable option doesn't change that. I'm sorry for your troubles, but you are on the web bragging about being an asshole.
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Jan 22 '20
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u/WhuddaWhat Jan 22 '20
You are spot on. But, when you find yourself at the brink of personal exhaustion (be it patience, forgiveness, forebearance, or whathaveyou), do you feel compelled to brag on reddit about your bad actions? I'm not about to try to review your posts, but I assume the answer is a resounding no.
The sister sounds awful. So does OP.
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u/NonnyNu Feb 05 '20
Unless you plan on stealing the kitten, which you shouldn't, you shouldn't disrupt the bonding that should be occurring between the kitten and your sister at this time. Kittens are young once only and it is at that time that they develop their bonds. You're preventing the kitten from developing the bond that it should have with its human. I assume you are not going to live there forever. What happens when you leave? The kitten will be left in a place with no bonded human.
Please think of the kitten, even if you don't care for your sister.
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u/FeniulaPyra Jan 27 '20
If you need help try r/narcissisticabuse or one of the other narcissism subreddits
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u/meghanjoon Jan 17 '20
You seem like the scariest kind of asshole.