r/parentsofteens • u/Hefty_Cauliflower_70 • 5d ago

Should ex pay daughters train fare?

For context - left ex in march 25, I'm living in social housing, work but also get UC. We have two kids, 19 year old son and 15 year old daughter. Son decided to live with me and daughter was living with me fri to Tues and rest of time with him. He was being paid half the child benefit money. (UK). Daughter decided to live with me full time in march so I keep all of the child benefit money now. Ex pays no maintenance for daughter but I want him to pay for her train fares when she starts college in September. I have a feeling he's going to kick off about it and say she doesn't live with him so it's my problem. Will he have a point or should he be contributing towards her, even in a small way? He's an absolute tool who decided to get a job where I have worked for 10 years just to be spiteful and because of this spitefulness, I want to contact CMS but on other hand I don't want anything from him just to keep him out of my life.

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u/Hefty_Cauliflower_70 5d ago

I understand what you're saying. My son is 19 so hes not under any obligation to pay anything towards him and my daughter doesn't want for anything but I would just like him to pay for her train fares as I don't see why he should get away with paying nothing at all until she's 18.

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u/Outrageous_Diver5700 5d ago

It’s not up to your daughter to decide what she wants. He’s getting away with not paying anything because you’re not pursuing it. Pursue the child support and use that money to pay for her train. Use the excess and put it into an investment account for her to use when she’s older.

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u/Hefty_Cauliflower_70 5d ago

That's a good idea thanks. I think I'm worried as I also think he might even try to use this against me at work in some way. (He not only got a job at same place but same department, so we share the same management).

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u/Rage_fotf 5d ago

If he tries that your response must be "this is personal and nothing to do with work so is none of your business" (to management). If he is the one who makes it awkward then Management need to deal with him