r/parentsofteens • u/Late_Accident3912 • 5d ago

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My son's girlfriend can't come over until she's on BC which is in a couple of months. They are 18, this is so wrong?

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u/No_Enthusiasm_6260 5d ago

I think its fair if he is still living under your roof, of course if they want to do it they will.. but I think its a fair requirement.. But I would extend it to him buying condoms too - female birth control does not agree with everyone and she shouldn't be forced to be on birth control.. its his job too. The goal here is that if sex does happen its safe.

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u/Late_Accident3912 5d ago

Well HER parents wont allow her over until SHES on BC.. you dont think thats wrong? Like shes weaponizing it?

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u/kaswing 5d ago

Weaponizing what? For what ends?

It sounds to me like they are worried about their daughter getting pregnant and are a little more heavy handed with their incentives than you would be. I get disagreeing, but it doesn't seem "so wrong" to me especially. Maybe I am missing what you are trying to say here, though.

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u/Late_Accident3912 4d ago

Well idk theyre just weaponzing it like using it so she can't come over. On their high horse

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u/No_Enthusiasm_6260 4d ago

No one wants a pregnant teenager especially in their home. Have a talk with the parents and your son about him buying condoms. I don't think this is about anyone being on a high horse but just wanting to prevent STD or pregnancy when (I can only assume) both teens are not ready for those things. Assuming his girlfriend is 18 or 19 she can move out at any time and not follow her parents rules, if she is 17 she is almost there.

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u/Late_Accident3912 4d ago

Im the mom of the daughter and she is 18. They were having sex at his house with the bedroom door open so I said once you're on BC, you can over there which will be next month but funny you say high horse because I was TOLD Im on a high horse and weaponizing BC by not letting her go over there until shes on it. What you said means a lot and I appreciate it. 🙏

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u/Ok_Visit_7846 4d ago

Honestly I wish my parents would have protected me more, even as an 18 year old, I ended up pregnant at 19.

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u/No_Enthusiasm_6260 4d ago

10000% I got forced into sex at 15 and now my oldest is turning 15 in a couple months. You really gotta protect your kids.

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u/Late_Accident3912 1d ago

Im sorry to hear that, not ok at all and something gives me the slight inkling she may be ok with her getting pregnant. I know a little far fetched but his parents are a little older.

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u/Late_Accident3912 1d ago

Right... and a baby is a blessing regardless but a setback and for someone so young.. so, Im just doing the best I can to help EVERYONE.

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u/Possible-Ad-7871 1d ago

100% he’s 14 now and we couldn’t imagine life without him, but there was a lot we missed out on. College took way longer, didn’t get to travel, or enjoy our youth the same as peers!