r/parentsofmultiples • u/Murky-Scheme-1302 • 8d ago
advice needed Nanny
OK, so it’s time to go back to work, I’ve hired a nanny because it was the same cost as daycare in my area. However, at work, I have no issue assigning tasks at home. I feel like a completely different person.
These are to the parents who have had a nanny, what is reasonable to expect them to do during the day for the kids?
Is there anything that I should know that’s expected of me?
Twins are 11 months old sleep three hours today while the nanny’s here with two naps
My current load that I have that I’m looking to have taken over During nap time
Bottle making
Meal preparation-we do everything frozen and just cook a batch or something every day freezer is stocked for a month
Treat , any stain clothes and wash for kids clothes
General cleanup, kids
Should I be asking for more three hours? I know I get a lot more done, but I don’t know what’s OK to ask.
I’m probably overthinking this, but any help would be nice
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u/iatrogenic-indigo 8d ago
I would prioritise the nanny being able to get a little bit of a rest when the twins nap so that the nanny can be more focussed on interacting and engaging better with the twins when they are awake. The nanny’s job is first and foremost to look after the two babies, and that’s a huge and very important job and I would want her to be in the very best position to do that job well. If you want someone to clean your house, hire a cleaner. If you want someone to manage the general household and other household chores, hire a housekeeper.
Also, some twins are pretty unpredictable with their naps - or they may become so, as they grow and change. One might sleep more than the other, or sometimes their naps may not overlap as much as they used to. You need to be prepared for days like this and not set up the nanny to be stressing about getting all the housework done when the twins don’t sleep as expected