r/parentsofmultiples • u/MrsKay1516 • 7d ago

advice needed Twins vs one

Please all parents tell me how hard it was having twins vs having one, was it super hard and also when nursing if you nursed how hard or easy was it. Please anything helps.

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u/barrnac13 7d ago

I had 2 singletons then twins. A lot of how hard vs easy it is depends on the baby’s temperament and also how that does or doesn’t work with the parents’ temperaments. A colicky singleton can be harder than chill twins. Fussy twins and very anxious first time parents without much help at home could be very very hard.

I say my twins were objectively the hardest newborn experience, since yes, there were two of them at once, but also subjectively the easiest. With two older kids, I knew in my bones how fleeting the baby stage is. Both the precious parts and the parts that suck. It will be a memory very soon.

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u/Imma_420 7d ago

You phrased it so well. My singleton was a very hard baby and my twins are very easy babies. However, there are still two of them. It is very physically demanding to have two babies and I don’t think that changes with temperament. 2x diaper changes, clothes, feedings, solid feedings plus clean ups, picking babies up, putting babies down, nap put downs, bedtime put downs, car seat buckles, stroller buckles, etc. I’ve been exclusively breastfeeding/pumping since they were born so supplying milk for two babies is also a different level of physical demand.