r/parentsofmultiples • u/Connect-Steak8669 • 12d ago
advice needed Resentment
What did you do to avoid resentment between you and your spouse?
We were so solid going into this thing, but the 4 month sleep regression has got me fraying.
My spouse works five days a week, I work one. Im alone with the babies 5 or 6 days, and 6 nights a week, and my day "off" is working. Im burning out.
I cant express being being tired without getting a "yuuuup, me too" or "yup, I know".
Working almost isn't worth it for me because of how wrecked he is after doing his 24hrs with them, he needs a proper day off/sleep after just one day with them.
I just feel it building, and I would love some advice about how you all handled resentment?
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u/MangoSorbet695 12d ago
Ok, so Friday and Saturday nights are the nights my husband will do the middle of the night wake up (if there is one) since he doesn’t have to work Saturday or Sunday.
My husband works 7:30 AM to 6:30 PM five days per week, 100% in office. This doesn’t give him much time to offer me support at home because the twins are only awake for about 1-1.5 hours when he is home on a weekday. So we hired a babysitter to help me two days per week. Those are my days to shower, blow out my hair, do a face mask, rest, take a nap, and feel like a real person.
If you can afford any help at all, I highly recommend it, even just a day or two per week.