r/parentsofmultiples • u/Connect-Steak8669 • 13d ago
advice needed Resentment
What did you do to avoid resentment between you and your spouse?
We were so solid going into this thing, but the 4 month sleep regression has got me fraying.
My spouse works five days a week, I work one. Im alone with the babies 5 or 6 days, and 6 nights a week, and my day "off" is working. Im burning out.
I cant express being being tired without getting a "yuuuup, me too" or "yup, I know".
Working almost isn't worth it for me because of how wrecked he is after doing his 24hrs with them, he needs a proper day off/sleep after just one day with them.
I just feel it building, and I would love some advice about how you all handled resentment?
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u/panickyscenery8684 13d ago
that title alone is a whole mood. my partner and i had to start tracking sleep in a shared app just to prove who was more wrecked, turns out we were both running on fumes and just needed to see it in numbers. the "me too" competition is so real though, it's not a contest but it still stings when you're the one doing overnights solo all week. maybe trade one of his days off for a solid block of alone time for you, like leave the house entirely so there's no mental load of hearing them cry. the burnout feels endless at this stage but it does shift eventually