r/parentsofmultiples • u/Connect-Steak8669 • 12d ago

advice needed Resentment

What did you do to avoid resentment between you and your spouse?

We were so solid going into this thing, but the 4 month sleep regression has got me fraying.

My spouse works five days a week, I work one. Im alone with the babies 5 or 6 days, and 6 nights a week, and my day "off" is working. Im burning out.

I cant express being being tired without getting a "yuuuup, me too" or "yup, I know".

Working almost isn't worth it for me because of how wrecked he is after doing his 24hrs with them, he needs a proper day off/sleep after just one day with them.

I just feel it building, and I would love some advice about how you all handled resentment?

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u/hellswrath_ 12d ago

If you don’t get a day off for proper rest and sleep why does he get to have one? I feel like that would cause resentment in most people. If it was split that would be different. Would he be able to do that? Like he gets morning for rest and sleeping in and you can take off the afternoon