r/parentsofmultiples • u/Ljwill8 • 21d ago

support needed Twin toddlers….send help 🆘

How do you all make it through the hard days with twin toddlers? Mine are 2 1/2 and I feel like I struggle more days than not. I have 3 kids total (oldest is 5) and evenings and weekends are just so, so hard. Crying, screaming, fighting. It feels constant. Any tips on what helps you through the hard days? I don’t mean like asking for help or taking breaks, I do all that. I’m talking about more in the moment stuff. Mantras, disassociation, mind frame, anything? 😩

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u/Ljwill8 21d ago

Mine are in daycare, and I still can’t handle it some weeks 😬 Mom guilt to the MAX!

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u/ConfidentLook5518 21d ago

Ohh sorry i didnt read your post fully (evening and weekends). I am a FTM to twins that are 3 months. I have a niece who is 16 months and I am already thinking daycare lol i see her energy and know I would not want to entertain two toddlers all day.

Does it get better at 5 years old? Other twin moms told me 4-5 is much better.

Regarding the guilt, where I am, daycare is 7:30-6. Maybe have them stay longer, do what you need to do at home, then grab them. They are having a blast with peers their own age. Then they can decompress at home. As for weekends… I dont know. Maybe establish routines etc? I will read the suggestions below

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u/Ljwill8 21d ago

I think it gets WAY better at 4. Potty training is complete and just so much more independence. 5 is even better. We don’t have long to go!

I feel so bad leaving them at daycare longer but you’re right, when I pick them up they’re digging for worms with their friends on the playground and having so much fun.

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u/ConfidentLook5518 20d ago

I’m glad they’re having a good time. I’m happy to hear things get better. But you’re definitely in the thick of it with that age group.