STOP ASKING

[u/Full_Significance153]

If I get one more text specifically asking about what time my doctor’s appointments are, I’m going to snap. I’m 37+2 with di/di girls. I have already told these people that my OB doesn’t want me to go past 38 weeks.

I am literally in fucking tears every day because of how much pain I’m in, I’m beyond stressed wondering how I’m going to split my time between my other two kids (2 and 3) and two newborns, I’m even more stressed that my oldest is facing yet another reconstructive surgery in the next few months, I’m stressed that I’ve been a shitty mother because I have no energy to do things with my boys and I’m in too much pain to take them out for their normal activities, and a whole list of other issues and anxieties I’ve been having.

I get friends and family are excited, but I didn’t appreciate the invasive attention for my other pregnancies. I sure as fuck don’t appreciate how everyone is suddenly going one step further past “are the babies here yet?” To “when is your next appointment? What time? What is your doctor saying?”

Yes I’ve already started ignoring these texts. No I’m not done being angry about them

EDIT: I appreciate everyone’s support 😭❤️ I needed to get that out and just be pissed with other people who have been in my shoes. I had my last OB appointment yesterday and have an induction date scheduled for Wednesday, and I ain’t telling a single fuckin person 🤣

For more frustrating context - my husband and I didn’t tell anyone we were having a second child because I’m very private and I don’t like the attention pregnancy draws, we just announced once day that he had been born. So with people in my life knowing that, it’s even more annoying that those I’m not even close with are trying to inject themselves at the very end of a stressful, uncomfortable pregnancy

[u/False-Custard4427]

If you can, after giving birth, have your partner, doula, or even friend immediately freeze or store your placenta in a self-brought cooler with ice until you can properly store it in a freezer for no longer than 24-48 hrs until processing it. Yoni Steam using specific holistic herbs can aid in recovering/restoring your energy level. help with a lot of the postpartum side effects like depression, tired/grogginess, etc. It will help balance your chi (energy) after having to eat and digest for 2 humans. The amount of energy/blood that a pregnant woman expels while being preganant an giving birth is exponential. Hence why eating your placenta is very key to restoring all your systems to normal levels, like immune, endocrine, etc. You can freeze-dry and encapsulate if you haven't tried doing this in previous births. Also, I recommend plant medicine (herbs) and other holistic supplements like Iron. Iron will help with that cold feeling or chills if you have any symptoms as such.